He Admitted That He Wouldn’t Care About Getting Cheated On, And Now His Girlfriend Can’t Look At Him The Same Way Anymore And Isn’t Speaking To Him
Two days ago, this man got together with his friends, and they were discussing the subject of dating and infidelity. Everyone was weighing in, and when his friends questioned what he thought, he expressed that he wouldn’t be devastated or hurt if his girlfriend was unfaithful to him.
“I would not care. There is no need to sulk over it. It’s just a girlfriend, and cheating proves the point that they are not the one. From my point of view, life is too short to get sad about these things,” he said.
Plus, he acknowledged that the unfaithful partner is to blame, not the person who was cheated on. He believes that people who have affairs have an internal void they’re attempting to fill. It’s also possible, in his opinion, that people who cheat physically and emotionally on their partners are self-conscious.
While sharing his views with his friends, he assured them he wouldn’t need to do any work to move forward or process the betrayal. In a past relationship, his girlfriend was unfaithful to him, and he caught her and the other man hooking up.
“I told them to have fun and just left. People were taken aback by my answer and asked if anything would change if it was a wife instead of a girlfriend. I said no,” he explained.
In a hypothetical situation in which his wife had an affair, he would file for divorce, and he and his ex would move on with their lives. He didn’t see why he’d want to remain in an unhealthy marriage. A few of his friends asked if he’d consider couples therapy before filing for divorce in this scenario, and he said he wouldn’t. He argued that couples therapy should happen before an affair, not afterward.
If someone in a relationship is unhappy, he believes the person should express their feelings to their partner to resolve the issues. When the issues can’t be fixed, or the two people within a relationship are no longer compatible, they should divorce. He doesn’t think there is ever an excuse for being unfaithful within a relationship.
“Doing marriage counseling after infidelity is like a murderer going to the murder scene to revive the victim, but the victim has to do most of the work to be revived. I do not care about closure at all,” he shared.
He didn’t think it mattered what excuse the person gave for cheating because he didn’t think there was ever an acceptable rationalization. His friends and girlfriend were stunned by his arguments, and they questioned whether he had any feelings.
BullRun – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
While he does have feelings, he didn’t think there was a point in feeling upset about someone cheating on him when he wasn’t the one to blame. He thought it was a waste of time and negative energy, and he’d rather move on with his life and not look back.
In response to his views, his girlfriend said she couldn’t look at him the same way and worried that he didn’t care about their relationship. Since then, she hadn’t spoken to him.
Do you think he was wrong?
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