Her Ex-Husband Gave Her One Year To Change Her Last Name Back To Her Maiden Name Because He’s Marrying Another Woman, But She Doesn’t Want To, Even Though They’ve Been Divorced For Five Years
Often, when women get divorced, they can’t wait to drop their husband’s last name.
However, some women choose not to go through with that, especially if they’ve had their husband’s last name for decades and use it for work and other important things.
One woman is refusing to change her last name even though her ex-husband is marrying someone else five years after their divorce.
She’s 39 and was married to her 38-year-old husband for 12 years. They have three teenage kids and have been co-parenting since their divorce.
“My ex and I got divorced because we were young when we met and got married, and we grew apart as people,” she said.
“It was a mutual decision, and we agreed [that] our kids came first, and we have always co-parented very well.”
Things were fine between her and her ex until he started dating his 24-year-old girlfriend three years ago. Her ex’s girlfriend didn’t bond with their kids, and things became super tense between them. She and her kids used to spend birthdays and holidays with her ex-husband but eventually stopped because no one wanted to see his girlfriend.
They used to be able to spend time together as a family, but now, they can’t even sit together during the kids’ sports events.
“My ex and [his girlfriend] got engaged over Christmas, and my kids were less than thrilled, my daughter especially,” she explained.
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“She feels her dad made a major life decision without even talking to them about it first. My ex called me yesterday, saying he is giving me a ‘heads up’ that I have a year to change my last name back to my maiden name, as his fiancée is expressing her distaste and concern for [us] to have the same last name when they get married.”
When she and her ex divorced, it was stated in their divorce agreement that she could keep his last name until she was ready to change it. She reminded her ex about this and told him she still wanted to have the same last name as their kids.
Her ex told her she was being unreasonable and said it would make his fiancée very uncomfortable if she kept his last name. While she understood where his fiancée was coming from, she felt that her point of view was immature.
Should she change her last name to avoid drama or stand her ground?
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