Rebecca Meyer
This woman was the maid of honor two months ago at her friend B’s wedding. She was thrilled when B asked her to fill this role but was nervous because she knew she couldn’t go above and beyond like many maids of honor usually do.
From the beginning, she was up-front with B about her uncertainty, adding that she’d be willing to step down from her role if it wasn’t working out or if B thought someone else would be a better fit.
During their conversations, B assured her it would be fine because her wedding would be small and unorthodox, and she didn’t expect her to do much aside from standing next to her during the ceremony.
After her discussions with B, she felt more at ease with accepting the role. She talked with the groom’s friends at the reception after the ceremony. They discussed the massive bachelor party they’d organized for the groom, and the best man’s girlfriend wanted details of the bachelorette party she’d thrown for B.
“I had to admit I hadn’t organized any celebration for her. The atmosphere with that group felt awkward after that, and I could tell the girlfriend was judging me,” she said.
Later, she talked with B’s aunt, who gushed about B’s gorgeous wedding dress. Her aunt wanted to know where they found it, assuming she went wedding dress shopping with B. She explained to B’s aunt that she hadn’t gone dress shopping with B, and B’s aunt looked shocked and asked, “‘But aren’t you the maid of honor?'”
A couple of weeks after the wedding, B and her now-husband, H, stopped by her house with a thank you card for the wedding gift she gave them. H seemed a bit cold during the interaction. Days later, she saw H at the grocery store, and B wasn’t with him. She tried to say hi to him, but he completely snubbed her. At this point, she realized he must have been upset with her.
“So, I called B and asked if something was going on with H. She played dumb at first, but I got her to admit he was upset with me for not putting more ‘effort’ into the wedding stuff,” she explained.
Eventually, she learned that H’s friends and B’s parents sided with H and believed she should have taken on more responsibilities and duties as the maid of honor. During the phone call with B, she questioned what B’s opinion was, and B told her that while she wasn’t angry with her, she understood H’s perspective and why people sided with him.
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