She Gave Her Husband Permission To Date Other Women, But He Never Did: Now He Wants To When Things Are Rocky Between Them
For close to nine years now, this 30-year-old woman has been with her 28-year-old husband, and they tied the knot four years ago.
She can honestly say for most of their relationship, things have been stable and wonderful between them.
But then, last year, they hit a bad spot. She ended up having to leave their home for 9 long months due to a problem from their past that they created.
She doesn’t want to dive into the details, but it was hard for her to spend that kind of time away from her husband.
They had to sublease two rooms in their apartment, and they remained a 5-hour train ride apart until February of this year when she came home.
Throughout their time apart, they fought constantly, her husband didn’t support her, and she felt terribly betrayed.
Divorce came up multiple times, but they decided to ultimately stay with one another. But then, earlier this month, they had to separate for their internships, and she’s currently in Sweden while he is in Colombia.
“During our relationship, especially because we got together so young, I have been okay with him dating other women as long as it was all out in the open and with good communication,” she explained.
“I even found it exciting at times. This was only ever the case because I felt very safe and stable in our love and relationship and never felt any threat; rather saw it as normal to find some excitement and ego-boost from little crushes.”
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“The thing is, he never did. He tried dating apps but got discouraged quickly. I always dated girls with the hope that it would be someone we could date together. This only happened once…but the girl turned out to be not so good, and [things] ended quickly.”
So back when everything was wonderful, she was fine with her husband dating around. Currently, they’re still in a rough patch, and she does not feel stable or safe.
She’s honestly pretty worried and upset with how things are between them. When her husband recently brought up wanting to date other women now, she immediately felt mad and hurt.
She shut her husband down and said he’s not allowed to date, and if he wants to pursue other women, she wants out of their marriage.
Her husband accepted her position and mentioned she’s pretty much his ideal woman. He’s positive they will be happy with one another in the long run, but he kind of has FOMO from not having a lot of experience with other women prior to dating her.
“So my husband is not a man who gets a lot of attention generally like he is not a model or anything,” she added.
Being in Columbia has made her husband just feel like it might be exciting to explore dating since he doesn’t view it as a threat to their marriage. He won’t be there for long, and it’s far away from where they live.
She’s considering potentially allowing her husband to date or kiss women he meets, but she isn’t down for him to sleep with them.
“I have some extra rules like full disclosure and no bringing any of that home, so closed contact afterward,” she continued.
“But I don’t know…it does not make me feel good, but I also kind of understand…” What advice do you have for her?
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