She Just Discovered That Her Husband Carried On An Affair For Years And Has A 10-Year-Old Son
It’s been a little over three years now that this 60-year-old woman lost her 62-year-old husband, and she believed they had an amazing marriage during their time together.
They were always supportive of one another, never fought, and worked hard to raise their four children.
12 years ago, she began her Master’s degree, and so she spent several nights during the week out of the house. Their kids were adults at that point and had all moved away.
Her husband encouraged her pursuit of higher education, even though it came along with a mountain of homework every weekend. Her husband would spend the weekends out so she could get her work done uninterrupted.
“Now I know why he never resented leaving me to go “visit” friends,” she explained. “He wasn’t visiting friends, he was spending time with his girlfriend.”
“I never had a clue. This is how I found out. Today I finally cleaned out his nightstand. I have cleaned everything else the last 3 1/2 years, his dresser, closet, tool shed, and all his stuff from the garage, but today I started emptying his nightstand.”
“I found so much stuff. Cards and notes from her. A very expensive men’s watch and gold chain necklace I didn’t buy him and never saw him wear either. The notes were all signed, Fred. With a heart around it.”
She had saved her husband’s phone, so she dug that out, charged it up, and went searching through his contacts to find any female names that stuck out.
With nothing interesting, she then went into his messages and poked around. Still uneventful. Then she found someone named Fred in her husband’s contacts, and she learned this was actually a woman named Freda.
ShantiMedia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual child
Freda was about 40, gorgeous, and in great shape, and she had sent loads of photos to her husband.
“Everything was dated starting in 2012 while I was at school. Some of the pictures were in my home,” she said.
“He had her here while I was at school getting a degree. Many of the pictures were at her home with her kids. Then there was the ultrasound. And her asking him when he was going to tell me?”
“When was he getting divorced? She wanted this child to have its real father. He kept telling her soon. That he loved her but didn’t want to hurt me.”
She wanted to quit reading all of the messages, but she couldn’t. She couldn’t pry herself away. She poured over the messages as it felt as if her heart was being ripped from her body.
The entire remaining nine years of her marriage were nothing but a lie. The final messages between her husband and Freda were from 2018, and that’s when her husband informed Freda he couldn’t leave her, his wife, since she had cancer.
Her husband and Freda made an agreement to give one another space and not speak to each other for a bit.
Now, she did have cancer, and her husband was incredible throughout her health struggles. He would come home from work early and help her make dinner every night.
He went to all of her doctor’s appointments and stayed by her side when she had to be hospitalized.
He was such a grounding force for her amid all of this, and thankfully, her surgeon was able to get all of the cancerous tumors out of her body.
“In April 2019, he got a text from her with a baby picture,” she added. “It said, “I have a son; you have an ugly, fat, sick wife. Enjoy your life. I’m back with my ex.” There was no response from him to her and no other exchanges.”
“I have been crying off and on all day. My daughter lives with me and keeps asking what is wrong. I told her it was really hard cleaning out her dad’s nightstand. Should I leave it at that or destroy the image she has of her dad with what I found? My 4 kids have a little brother out there. Should I tell them or leave it be and play ignorant if he ever tries to contact us?”
“I thought I had moved on. I recently started dating and have felt in a good place but now this. I just don’t know how to handle this devastating situation.”
What advice do you have for her?
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