His Girlfriend Is Pregnant, And Her Very Wealthy Family Is Pressuring Them To Get Married, But He Doesn’t Want To Sign A Prenup
This young man and his girlfriend have been dating for about six months, and they just graduated college this past weekend. However, they recently found out his girlfriend is 12 weeks pregnant, and he’s encountered some tension with her father over how to proceed with their relationship.
For some context, his girlfriend’s family is apparently “old money rich.” According to him, they have the kind of wealth that actually allows them to take private jets on vacation and maintain a “relatively” high profile in their community.
So, his girlfriend’s parents really want them to get married before their baby is born. Her parents made that very clear when they took him and his girlfriend out for a graduation dinner this past weekend, too.
“For a little bit, I was receptive to the idea. I mean, I never imagined getting married this young, but I also never thought I’d have a kid without being married, so I get where they’re coming from,” he explained.
That’s why he told his girlfriend’s father that he was open to the idea of marriage but would need some time. In response, her father said that was “great” and that he would reach out to their family lawyer to begin “making arrangements.”
This immediately confused him, and he asked why they even needed a lawyer. It was then that his girlfriend’s father broached the topic of a prenup.
Now, he claims that, prior to that day, a prenup was never discussed. Quite frankly, the idea also made him a bit uneasy.
“I told my girlfriend it makes me uncomfortable, and she is trying to assure me it’s just standard practice since they have so much wealth, and it’s just what everyone in their community does,” he said.
“She told me they’d make it fair as can be to me.”
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However, the issue is he cannot afford to hire his own lawyer. He also doesn’t really trust his girlfriend’s family’s lawyer to actually represent him.
So, he wound up telling his girlfriend’s father that he’d agree to the marriage, but he would not be signing a prenup.
If you couldn’t have guessed, this did not go over well, either. His girlfriend’s father accused him of trying to use his girlfriend for financial gain and to exploit her family. On top of that, he got accused of purposefully getting his girlfriend pregnant.
He was extremely taken aback by that and decided to be honest with his girlfriend’s father – revealing how she was the one who initiated each step in their relationship. Obviously, his girlfriend’s father did not like hearing that, and he does sort of regret telling him that.
Regardless, he just isn’t okay with the way things are going in his relationship right now.
“I just don’t want to jump into something so lopsided, and I’m willing to give marriage a shot, but only if it’s a normal, old-fashioned marriage,” he vented.
“Otherwise, I have no qualms with not being married.”
In fact, the perfect scenario for him would be to continue dating his girlfriend for at least one more year before getting engaged. But his girlfriend’s family isn’t okay with that due to “appearances.”
So now, he’s been left wondering if refusing to sign a prenup before marrying his girlfriend is justified or not.
Can you understand why he’s hesitant about getting a prenup? Is there another way for him to ensure he’s protected in the agreement? What would you do?
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