His Wife Forgot His Birthday, And Even Though She Made It Up To Him, He Still Held Onto Some Resentment And Pretended To Forget Her Birthday, Too

This 30-year-old man and his wife, who is also 30, both lead very busy work lives. Still, whenever it comes to big occasions like birthdays and wedding anniversaries, they always make sure to celebrate.
“We plan our wedding anniversaries together, but on birthdays, we like to surprise each other, and we’ve been doing it for years,” he explained.
However, when it was his birthday a couple of months ago, his wife completely forgot about it. At first, he thought she was playing a joke when she didn’t wish him a happy birthday the morning of. But, as the day went on, he realized that she’d actually just forgotten it was his birthday.
“Work was getting really busy for her, so I understood that her mind was preoccupied, but to just forget my birthday entirely? I really felt horrible that day,” he recalled.
Thankfully, a few days later, his wife realized that she’d made a mistake and gave him a genuine apology. She also took him out to his favorite restaurant and gave him a very nice birthday gift.
Still, while he thought they had a “great time” at his makeup birthday celebration, it seems as though he still held onto some resentment. That’s because, despite remembering his wife’s birthday a couple of weeks ago, he actually didn’t want to celebrate it with her and just pretended to forget.
“I still felt slight hurt from my wife forgetting my birthday,” he reasoned.
So, on the night of her birthday, he told his wife that he was going to watch a sports game with his sister. Plus, he claimed he would be home either late that night or the following day, and he wound up returning home the next day.
Then, just like his wife did, he apologized to her a few days later for forgetting her birthday.

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“I then took her to her favorite restaurant and gave her a gift, which she really loved. We had a great time,” he detailed.
However, while he and his wife were talking just the other night, she ultimately asked him if he had really forgotten her birthday. Or, if he’d just pretended to on purpose.
She also opened up about how she felt really hurt on her birthday when he went to hang out with his sister instead of celebrating her.
At that point, he confessed to the whole thing and said he’d only pretended to forget her birthday because he still felt really hurt about what happened on his own birthday.
“And that celebrating her birthday that day would just reignite those hurt feelings. I told her that I needed some space from her that day and that I had a great time with my sister,” he vented.
Now, after he and his wife talked some more about this, they were actually able to work it out, and he thinks they’re “back to normal.”
Nonetheless, he’s since been left wondering if not celebrating his wife’s birthday after she forgot his birthday was really a petty move or not.
Do two wrongs ever make a right? Was he petty and spiteful or not? What would you have done in his shoes?
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