He Won’t Allow His Brother-In-Law’s Family Of Five To Move Into His Home Because He Thinks Having Nine People Under One Roof Will Disrupt His Own Family
While you may be quick to say yes when someone asks to stay with you while going through a hard time, it is something you should consider for a while before making any big decisions.
One man’s wife is mad at him after he refused to allow his brother-in-law and his family to stay in their home while he looks for a new job.
He and his wife are in their early 30s and have been living in a modest three-bedroom house with their two young kids.
Recently, he found out that his wife’s brother, Joe, lost his job. It’s been especially scary, as Joe has a family to look after, including a wife and three kids, 10 and under.
A few days ago, Joe and his wife sat down with him and his wife to ask if they could temporarily stay in their home with their children while Joe looked for a new job.
Joe and his wife promised they’d only be in their home for a few months at most, but still, he immediately felt hesitant.
“With the four of us living here, it’s already crowded, and it would be rather packed with five more people,” he said.
“Joe pledged to help out financially, but given his current circumstances, I’m not sure how much he can really afford.”
Additionally, Joe and his family stayed in their home for a week last year when their home was being renovated, and it was an extremely stressful time. Their house was messy and noisy, and their daily routine was extremely interrupted. He and his wife fought a lot with that many people in their house.
Miljan Živković – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
After his family suffered during a week of living with Joe’s family, he believes that a few months crammed into their house would make all involved miserable.
He began suggesting alternative solutions for Joe and his family, like recommending staying with his mom or finding a short-term rental home.
Joe is adamant that their best bet is our property.
“My spouse is conflicted, [as] she is aware of my worries, but she also feels compelled to support her brother,” he explained.
“She is concerned that if we decline to assist, it would harm their connection and make us appear conceited.”
After days of going back and forth with his wife, he decided to refuse to allow Joe and his family to stay with them. Now, his wife is very upset with him, even though he feels he made the decision in everyone’s best interest.
What would you have done if you were in his position?
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