On Her Wedding Day, Her Mom Laughed At Her Dress And Nearly Made Her Cry

Kateryna  - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Kateryna - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

A couple of weekends ago, this 32-year-old woman got married, but her mom basically ruined her special day.

First, let’s back up and talk about her 65-year-old mom, whom she is not that close with. She and her mom have always had a hard time getting along, since her mom is impossible to make happy, as well as rude.

All throughout her life, she and her four older brothers felt like their mom never approved of anything they did.

“She raised the five of us alone working two jobs, and we all love her for the sacrifices she made for us and try to look after her now we all have our own careers,” she explained.

“There are genuinely good times with her, too. So, I suppose you might say it’s a complex relationship we all have.”

“Anyway, I announced my engagement last year and while she initially seemed pleased, she gradually pulled away from me and seemed like I was inconveniencing her by asking for her involvement. For example, I asked if she’d be there while I tried on wedding dresses because it meant a lot to me, and she told me she “didn’t feel like it.”

She then texted her mom to ask if she would like to see photos of the wedding venue she picked out, but her mom replied that she didn’t need to see photos since she would be at the wedding.

It then crossed her mind to ask her mom to be the one to walk her down the aisle, but since her mom couldn’t be bothered with anything related to her wedding, she decided against this. Instead, she asked all of her brothers to be there for her, and they agreed. They were touched to have the opportunity to walk her down the aisle.

On the actual day of her wedding, she was getting ready with her bridesmaids before going over to the venue.

Kateryna – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“I had just put on my wedding dress and felt very emotional looking at myself in it,” she said. “My bridesmaids were very complimentary of it, and it was a special moment between all of us.”

“Just then, my mom arrived and actually started to laugh when she saw me. Everyone kind of went silent out of shock, and I asked her what was wrong. She just replied with, “What? It’s the first time I’m seeing it!” and walked off, leaving me feeling crushed that she’d laugh at me.”

“My bridesmaids built me back up and I brushed it aside, and I ended up having a lovely wedding. My brothers walked me down the aisle as I’d wanted, and it was so special getting married to my best friend.”

Things only spiraled further out of control when it came time to take the photos. The photographer tried to take a photo of her and her mom together, and her mom made a handful of remarks about not getting to walk her down the aisle.

She felt puzzled over her mom’s displeasure, as her mom made it clear to her that she wasn’t interested in anything having to do with her special day.

She was about to mention that to her mom when her mom looked at her and laughed once more over her dress.

Her mom then said to her, “Really…that dress?” Then, the photographer snapped their photo, and in it, she looks like she’s about to start crying.

“Perhaps I should’ve confronted her then and there, but I just wanted to salvage as much happiness as I could for my wedding day,” she continued.

“A day or so later, however, I told my husband and brothers. They were all shocked and sided with me, asking my mom why she’d said what she said. My mom apparently said she just hadn’t liked my dress and thought I was overreacting. She refused to say sorry, and since then, we haven’t spoken, but she’s badmouthing me.”

“On Monday, we’re going on our honeymoon, and I’m wondering if I should confront my mom about this before then or if there isn’t any point and I should move past it. Even if I do say something, what could it be that would get through to her that I’m hurt?”

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