She Said Her Brother’s Soon-To-Be Ex-Wife Had A Right To Leave Him Because He’s Not Responsible Enough To Be A Father And May Never Be
Sometimes, it can be really hard to bite your tongue when you see your friend getting dumped and understand their ex’s point of view more than theirs.
One woman recently snapped and told her brother that his wife was right to leave him in the middle of his divorce.
She has a 32-year-old brother named Adam, who was married to his 29-year-old college sweetheart, Eve, but they’re now in the process of getting a divorce.
Eve was the one who really wanted a divorce and has already moved out of their home, but Adam has been very much against it and is heartbroken.
“The background is that my brother has ADHD and has never been very good at complying with treatment to help with it,” she explained.
“He’s one of those people with an amazing, bouncy personality, but living with him is a complete nightmare. I know because growing up, I was always expected to pick up his slack.”
Adam is very bad at consistently taking his ADHD medication and has never had luck with therapy.
When Adam and Eve first met and entered a relationship, Adam was still living with his parents, so they stayed on top of him to take his medication and have his act together.
Adam lived with their parents until he and Eve got married and moved in together, which was when their problems started. They started a family, but unfortunately, things never got better, only worse.
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“Eve is one of the most chill people I know, but I’ve watched her go from happy and put together to a nervous wreck over their marriage,” she said.
“We’re friends and talk a lot, and she confided in me that she feels like the only adult in the house, and it’s driving her slowly insane more than once.”
Adam and Eve tried marriage counseling, but it did not help. Then, what sealed the deal was that when Eve recently had surgery, Adam dropped the ball and didn’t do anything to help her during her recovery.
It was so bad that Eve’s mom had to fly into town to care for her because her husband refused to.
Finally, Eve couldn’t take it anymore and moved out of their home with their kids before filing for divorce.
Now that Eve is gone, Adam’s life has been even more chaotic, and he’s a complete mess.
She’s been struggling with this divorce because she understands why Eve left and thinks she was right to do so. However, she’s been biting her tongue because she didn’t want Adam to know.
But recently, she snapped and couldn’t hold back any longer.
The other day, she was on the phone with Adam when he called her a very mean name and accused her of being a horrible person for taking his kids away.
“I told him that Eve leaving him was the best move for her own mental health, and she was probably right that he’s not responsible enough to be a father right now,” she recalled.
“He needs to take a good look at his life without Eve and ask himself if he’s capable of doing the hard everyday parts of parenting.”
Now, Adam is furious with her, and her mom has scolded her for kicking him while he is down.
Was she wrong to say those things to Adam?
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