Whether To Follow Your Head Or Your Heart Is The Ultimate Question When It Comes To Love
Have you ever been asked if you’ve been following your head or your heart regarding a certain situation? Or, perhaps, you’ve had to choose between your head and your heart while trying to solve a problem.
If you don’t know about the difference between choosing between your head and your heart, allow me to break it down for you, as this kind of decision can make a big impact on your love life and relationships.
When you choose to follow your heart, you generally make decisions and choices based on your feelings. If you ever feel your chest get a little tight or your emotions get the better of you when faced with a decision to make, it’s usually an indicator that you’re about to follow your heart.
Following your head usually means you’re using logic and analysis when making a decision. If you need time to think about something before committing or your head is clouded with all kinds of thoughts when faced with a choice, you’re likely leading from your head.
In certain scenarios, it’s best to lead with one or the other. However, in many scenarios, including relationship issues, you want to use a balance between your head and heart.
However, finding a balance between the two can be more difficult than one would expect.
Here are a few tips for using both your head and heart when making decisions for yourself and your relationships.
Take a breather
Sometimes, when we’re in a relationship and experiencing something like an argument or heated discussion, we can be quick to react in an over-the-top way or with anger.
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When you need to make a decision about your relationship or want to express something to your partner, take a beat before doing so.
While you shouldn’t have to overthink your relationship, you do want to think before you speak in order to maintain a peaceful relationship.
Avoid wearing rose-colored glasses
Sometimes, when we lead with our hearts more than our heads, we make so many decisions based on our feelings and, whether we realize it or not, wear a pair of rose-colored glasses.
The importance of leading with both your head and heart means that you can recognize the beauty in certain situations and the red flags in others.
Remember to stay on the alert and not brush off any red flags whenever they appear.
Utilize self-reflection
The best way to start using your head and heart is to make sure you know yourself on a deeper level.
Be honest with yourself and practice self-reflection. For instance, reflect on some of your past relationships, habits, and relationship patterns.
For instance, when entering a new relationship that isn’t what you had hoped it would be, ask yourself, “Am I with this person because I genuinely enjoy them or because I don’t want to be alone?”
Seek help from others
If you’ve been leading with your heart too much, sometimes people can act as your head. Vice versa, if you’ve been overthinking something and have been clouding your mind with anxious thoughts, someone can remind you about what you’re feeling in your heart.
If you struggle to find the balance between using your head and your heart, it may be a good idea to get some perspective from someone you trust. This someone should be a person who cares for you and is good at giving unbiased opinions or advice.
The best choice would be a trusted counselor or therapist, but sometimes a good friend or family. Member can easily help you out.
Again, finding a peaceful balance between your head and your heart may be difficult, but the more you strive to use both of them in decisions involving your relationships, the easier you may find life to be. Good luck, and you’ve got this!
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