He Makes Over $200,000 A Year, And He’s Considering Leaving His Job To Save His Relationship With His Ex
Two months ago, this 28-year-old guy and his 29-year-old ex-girlfriend broke up after spending three years together.
A year into their relationship, he was offered a job 8 hours away from their city with a big pay increase.
They discussed the opportunity, and while his ex wasn’t convinced they could survive a long-distance relationship, he took the job.
“When we lived in the same city, we had no issues, and I’ve never felt so connected to someone,” he explained.
“But when we moved to long distance, things started to fall apart in slow motion. And over the next 2 years, resentment started to form on both sides.”
His ex grew upset over the infrequency of his visits, and he wasn’t happy that she never came to visit him in his town.
They each felt so incredibly lonely that his ex was the one to call it all off. Their breakup wasn’t ugly, and they didn’t harbor any ill will for the other person.
Following their split, he deleted his ex from social media and asked her not to contact him at all. Since being single, he’s invested his newfound time into self-improvement, but he’s unable to get over his ex.
He even saw her twice in person, which didn’t help him feel confident in moving on. One month ago marked the first time he saw her, and he dropped by her home to collect the belongings he still had there.
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“That turned into me staying for 3 days, with a lot of feelings confessed, and us sleeping together a couple of times,” he said.
“After that, we went back to no contact, but I feel like I was majorly set back. This second time was this past weekend. It was for a friend reunion we put on every year. She had asked me prior if I was okay with her coming, to which I [said I] was, as she has become a part of our friend group.”
“During this weekend, it felt like we never broke up, and we ended up sleeping together a couple of times again. I knew it was probably a bad idea given the circumstances, but I couldn’t help myself. We told each other we still love each other and are both having a hard time moving on. I know this hooking up isn’t helping that, but there’s still so much love on both sides that it makes it extremely hard.”
Yesterday evening on his drive home, he spoke to his ex on the phone, and she admitted she wants to get back together with him.
However, the distance doesn’t work for her, and she would like him to move back to their city in order to resume a relationship.
She clarified that she wasn’t expecting him to prioritize her over his career, as she worries about him feeling bitter about it on a long enough timeline. It’s just that she needs him to physically be there with her in order to be together romantically.
He is currently weighing if he should move back so he can save his relationship with his ex, even though he doubts it’s a great idea.
“I would be going from my current job (200K+) to a job that makes less than half, as my current field isn’t that profitable in the city,” he added.
“I also worry that moving might build up resentment towards her, as I’d basically be throwing away my career growth.”
“Or another possibility is that I move, we break up anyway, and then I’ve thrown away this opportunity. I’ve been able to move up to a middle manager at my current company in the 2 years I’ve been here.”
Regardless of his ex, he wants to stay in his current company for the next two years and then move back home.
His main intention in accepting the job he has now was to make more money and increase his experience.
He realizes he should take a bit of time to weigh his options, as this would be an enormous life change.
“I do love her and can imagine my life with her,” he continued. “She has told me the same but shares the same worries.”
What advice do you have for him?
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