Her Fiancé Wants Her To Sign A Prenup That Leaves Her With Nothing, And She’s Left Feeling Worthless
In two weeks, this 29-year-old woman is tying the knot with her 32-year-old fiancé, Bob. She’s been with him for a bit more than five years now, and they got engaged a year ago.
Now, Bob is the owner of two companies, one of which he started from scratch, and that one specifically is super important to him.
“He started his company about a year into our relationship, so I’ve been there since day one,” she explained.
“I wasn’t super supportive at first, not because I didn’t believe in him, but he was working 80+ hour weeks, and I wasn’t mentally prepared to be a part of a newer relationship where I barely got to see my partner. Fast forward, I now work for my fiancé. I do the office administration, payroll, etc.”
Not long after Bob proposed to her, he said he wanted a prenup in order to protect his business, which she understood.
But that never materialized, and he didn’t bring it up again until two months ago. She felt irritated, as their wedding was three months out at that rate, and they hadn’t discussed any of the details.
Initially, Bob wanted her to get nothing in the event of a divorce, but they were able to work out an amount they both agreed on.
“We had worked out that the longer we are married, the higher percentage of the company I would be entitled to,” she said.
“Either way, it’s still less than the state marital laws would entitle me to, so I am giving up quite a lot. Bob said we’re going to do a prenup now, then do a postnup later to include what I am entitled to percentage-wise from the company.”
Tinatin – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Yesterday, she went to see her lawyer about the prenup to go over it, and the way it’s written, she actually gets nothing at all.
Her lawyer outlined to her that once she signs Bob’s prenup, she will never be entitled to a single thing. If Bob also declines to move forward with a postnup, she’s really going to be in a terrible place financially should something ever happen.
“I’m just feeling so worthless, invaluable…like…you’re supposed to be my partner, my husband…”What’s yours is mine, and mine is yours,” she added.
“This prenup is basically saying, “What’s yours is yours, and mine is mine.” I am so very hurt right now.”
Ever since the meeting with her lawyer ended, she’s been crying a lot. She hasn’t been able to speak to Bob about the prenup yet.
In her state, the rule is that she should be allowed to have 50% of all the marital assets. While she doesn’t want that much, she would like something.
Oh, Bob also put in the prenup that if he passes away, and she’s the surviving spouse, she still will get nada.
“But the fact that he’s saying, at least in my mind, you’re not entitled to anything we build together unless it’s specifically in both of our names, and even if I died, you’re not entitled to it, just hit me to my core,” she said.
She should be elated to be getting married, but she can’t bring herself to be happy about her wedding over the prenup drama.
What advice do you have for her?
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