His Wife’s Threatening To File For Divorce Unless He Takes A Paternity Test To Prove He’s Not The Father Of Her Friend’s Baby
Five years ago, this 33-year-old man married his 31-year-old wife. They have no children, and all along, he’s been under the impression that their relationship is wonderful.
But then, his wife came out of left field with a crazy request that left him reeling while questioning everything.
His wife has a 30-year-old friend named Jas, with whom she hangs out with a couple of times every month.
Jas gave birth to her son recently, and then three weeks ago, his wife insisted that he take a paternity test to prove to her that he’s not the father of Jas’s baby.
He thought his wife was playing a prank on him, so he laughed out loud, thinking she would follow suit.
“But the seriousness in her eyes made my stomach drop,” he explained. “I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.”
“I’ve never felt so disheartened and disrespected in my life. For context, I met Jas almost 1 year ago at a family gathering.”
“I’ve never been alone with her, never had any sort of relationship or inappropriate interaction with her. I don’t even know her that well, and the only resemblance I have with the kid is his nose, and my nose isn’t that uncommon.”
It’s never crossed his mind to cheat on his wife, and he doesn’t even so much as look at other girls.
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He’s been nothing but honest and devoted. His wife is allowed to go through his phone whenever she wants.
As soon as she demanded a paternity test, he pulled out his phone, hoping to prove to his wife that he has never spoken to Jas, or other girls for that matter.
Although his wife found no proof of an affair, she still wants him to take the test. She actually threatened to file for divorce if he refuses.
“I told her I wouldn’t take the test because I’ve done nothing wrong,” he said. “I’ve given her no reason to doubt me.”
“But she’s still pushing for it, and I honestly don’t understand why. It feels like no matter what I say or do, she just doesn’t trust me anymore.”
“The fact that she’s questioning my loyalty and accusing me of something so serious has completely changed how I see her and our marriage.”
Ever since the paternity test conversation, his wife has been treating him coldly. To him, it seems like she has already decided he’s a cheater, without any evidence, and nothing he can say to her will influence that. His wife will only speak to him to bring up taking the test.
He has not been able to sleep at night, as his thoughts are consumed with trying to piece together where everything began to go downhill.
It’s so bizarre to him, as he and Jas have barely spoken in real life. They do greet one another when Jas comes to his home to pick up or drop his wife off, and that’s the extent of their interactions.
“I can’t understand how my wife could think I’d have an affair,” he continued. “Some family members said I should just take the test to get it over with, but for me, it’s about more than just that.”
“It feels like my wife is questioning my entire character and everything we’ve built together. By taking the test, it feels like I’d be admitting that I’m a cheater, and I can’t do that. I haven’t done anything wrong, and taking the test feels like I’m betraying myself and my integrity.”
“I’m stuck. Do I just take the test to calm her down, even though it feels like I’m betraying my integrity? Or do I refuse and risk losing my wife? I honestly don’t know what to do. Initially, I thought she was cheating and just projecting, but she isn’t; we have an open phone policy.”
He dug through his wife’s phone, but it hasn’t been helpful. His wife basically never leaves their home unless it’s to hang out with Jas.
They also have cameras around the exterior of their home, and he’s checked those, too, but found nothing.
What advice do you have for him?
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