She’s Heartbroken That Her Boyfriend’s Been Texting His Ex-Wife That He Misses Her
Nine months ago, this 34-year-old woman started dating her 36-year-old boyfriend, and before they got together, her boyfriend was married.
But after he learned that his wife was carrying out an affair with a guy who lived in another state, they got divorced.
She actually began seeing her boyfriend while he was in his separation phase, and then, after the divorce was complete, they kept up their relationship.
They both were struggling to deal with their own traumas over the last few months, but she firmly believed they could dig themselves out of their respective holes since they had one other.
“More recently, I’d become concerned that our relationship had become stagnant,” she explained.
“I had fallen in love with him months ago, but was too scared to say it. But there was no sign of moving forward in the relationship or growing outside of our normal routine.”
“We’d met each other’s friends and families, and he had been with me through some pretty tough personal situations. To everyone looking in, we seemed completely in love, but at the rate we were going, I was afraid I’d never hear it. I couldn’t understand what was stopping us from moving forward.”
Over the weekend, she and her boyfriend attended a wedding and stayed at a friend’s house on a lake.
Her boyfriend went out jet skiing with this friend of theirs, and she stayed behind so she could get ready for the wedding.
unai – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She noticed her boyfriend’s phone, which he left at the lake house, was being flooded with messages. She took it upon herself to look through his phone, and what she found broke her heart.
“I found exactly what I deserved to find; he was texting his ex-wife,” she said. “This wasn’t just casual conversation.”
“He was sending her things like ‘I’m thinking about you,’ and every time she told him she missed him, he replied with ‘I miss you too.’ I am heartbroken. These were things he said to me.”
After her boyfriend came back from jet skiing, she addressed the texts with him, and initially, he denied ever texting his ex-wife.
But then, he admitted the truth, and she got into her car and drove right home. She was so hurt she didn’t want to go to the wedding and kill the vibe.
Later, she questioned her boyfriend about why he did this, and he didn’t have a valid reason. He just mentioned that he knew what he texted his ex-wife wasn’t ok.
“He did, however, tell me that I crossed a line by going through his phone, and he wants to take a break from us for a while,” she added.
“I don’t know what to feel. I’m sad that this might be the end, but I’m mad that this has all somehow been turned into all my fault. Don’t get me wrong, I shouldn’t have gone through his phone. I definitely made a mistake.”
“But now, instead of being in the dark about those two making me look like a fool, I know about it. What should I do? Is this [the] end, or is there a way to salvage this? Please help me. It’s been a long time since I’ve been happy, and I feel like I ruined it again.”
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