He Just Found Out His Wife’s Pregnant With Twins And Had A Sour Reaction Since He’s So Overwhelmed, And She’s Been Upset Ever Since
This 37-year-old man and his wife, 35-year-old Julie, have two young sons together, who are 5 and 3-years-old.
They are solid in terms of finances right now, but both he and Julie have high-stress jobs. And given the fact that he works around 60 hours a week, he already felt spread too thin with just two kids.
He doesn’t want to miss his sons growing up by never being home. At the same time, it’s important to him that he can one day afford to send his sons to both private schools and colleges.
“I didn’t have much financial support growing up, and I didn’t want my kids to worry about money like I did. But Julie has always wanted three kids,” he explained.
He actually found out about this back in college when he and his wife first met. Julie is an only child, which is why she seems to like the idea of raising a big family.
So, around a year ago, Julie broached the topic of having a third baby. He wasn’t really on board and tried to convince her that two was the perfect number for their family.
Nonetheless, she was set on having three, and he’d already agreed to have that many children prior to tying the knot.
“And so I was ultimately willing to try for another after a lot of conversations. Julie, to her credit, left her job at a firm to do government work, which reduced her salary but gave her more time to be there for the kids,” he detailed.
Since then, his wife has also gotten pregnant, and she’s now three months along. That’s why they went to their very first doctor’s appointment yesterday, and it left them shell-shocked.
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He and his wife found out that they were actually having twins, and he wanted to scream. Julie, on the other hand, appeared “thrilled.”
Following the appointment, they went back to the car, and Julie pointed out how he looked like he was going to start crying.
“I expressed that I’m terrified and I genuinely don’t know how I’m going to manage four kids. Three was already a stretch, and doubling the amount of children is very overwhelming,” he recalled.
Afterward, he admitted to feeling like he should leave his job to find a position that’s less time-consuming. Yet, he doesn’t want to feel like a failure who can’t provide the life he’d always envisioned giving his kids.
“I basically am in a position where I feel like I need to choose between making sure my kids are financially solid or having close relationships with each of them,” he revealed.
Julie told him that they’d figure it out together, and he claimed to need some time to process the whole situation. However, his wife wouldn’t stop trying to talk it through with him, and she even asked if he was at least a little excited.
At that moment, he snapped and replied, “No.” This made his wife tear up, accuse him of being a jerk, and ask how he could not be excited about their babies.
His wife stated that she was overwhelmed, too, and upset that he hadn’t even asked how she felt about the news.
To him, though, Julie was always the one who wanted to grow their family and had no concerns about having a third child. This is precisely why he didn’t think she’d be overwhelmed at the prospect of twins.
Regardless, his wife began crying and has been keeping her distance from him ever since the appointment.
He realizes in hindsight that he was harsh, and he’s attempted to apologize for that.
“But I do think it was fair for me to be stressed at the moment under the circumstances, and I wish she could also see where I’m coming from,” he vented.
Still, he can’t help but wonder whether his reaction to finding out they were expecting twins really did make him a jerk.
Are his feelings valid? Should he feel bad about how he responded to the news or not? What advice would you give him?
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