Her Husband Wants To Cancel Their Wedding Since He Thinks It’s A Waste Of Money, But She Never Would Have Agreed To Elope With Him If She Knew He Felt This Way
In 2019, this 29-year-old woman got engaged to her husband, who is 28, and at the same time, she was pregnant with their firstborn.
They made a plan to get married in November of 2020 when their daughter was 11-months-old, but the pandemic forced them to cancel their wedding.
“We didn’t want to lose everything, and we had our heart set on that date, so we decided to elope, with only 4 guests, a celebrant and a photographer,” she explained.
“This was all discussed prior and was always going to be a placeholder for our real wedding. We re-booked our wedding 11 months later, and lo and behold, COVID restrictions shut down our town again.”
“Just terrible…luck, but life goes on. We had been holding off on trying to have a second baby for this wedding and it was becoming depressing, planning something that kept being canceled. So we decided to postpone again without another wedding date in mind and started trying for a baby right away.”
They went on to have a second baby, and in June of this year, they had their third baby. She felt like their dream of a family was completed with their latest addition, and she wanted to move ahead with finally having their wedding.
She told her husband about all of her plans and even asked his opinion on things. But they do pretty much have everything you need for a wedding, like her wedding dress, her accessories, and her husband’s suit. They also have all the suits for his groomsmen and dresses for her bridesmaids.
All of this has been stocked away in a closet, waiting for the day when she and her husband can walk down the aisle.
She began to get exhilarated with the wedding planning process and sent out save the dates. Their new wedding day will be in a little more than a year from now.
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“I’ve told all my friends and family and the excitement of getting to have our special day has been building,” she said.
“The wedding is booked on our five-year elopement anniversary in November 2025, which I think 5 years is well and truly long enough.”
Unfortunately, yesterday evening her husband said he feels the need to postpone their wedding for a third time.
He’s looking to push it back for an additional five years, so he wants to rebook for 2030. She’s crushed that her husband wants to do this to her since they agreed to elope and then have a big day later on.
Evidently, her husband thinks a wedding is a waste of their money and a silly idea, considering they are already married.
“I never would have agreed to the elopement if I knew that’s how he felt,” she said. “I’ve given him every opportunity to speak up about what he wants in the wedding and he’s always seemed indifferent and hasn’t had any objections.”
“So this has completely blindsided me. I don’t know where to go from here; marriage and [a] wedding were non-negotiable for me. If I agree to postpone to the year 2030, then what’s to stop him from saying, “Well, it’s been 10 years; what’s the point now?”
“We’ve barely spoken today. My eldest child has some intuition despite the entire conversation taking place while she slept last night. She asked to see my wedding shoes, and I burst into tears. I birthed three of his children. I should get to be a bride and have our special wedding that we’ve been planning for 5 years.”
What advice do you have for her?
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