Her Boyfriend Has Detached From Everything And Everyone Except The Internet, And He’s No Longer The Man She Fell In Love With
Sadly, this 30-year-old woman has witnessed her 39-year-old boyfriend turn into a complete stranger, and he’s no longer the man she fell in love with.
She’s been with him for ten years, and she previously was so proud to be with a man like him. But now, she can no longer sit here and say that.
It’s hard for her to be supportive of him, given the dark, negative turn his personality has taken. Her boyfriend used to hang out with their friends and was a beloved part of their tight-knit group, but a year ago, he started to change, and it’s drastic.
The thing is, her boyfriend has cut everyone and everything out of his life except for the internet.
He ghosted his best friend. He can no longer be expressive with his emotions. He’s always playing defense for no reason.
She can admit that during the pandemic, she neglected their relationship a bit. She got consumed with hanging out with new friends and some of her hobbies, and she preferred that to spending time with him.
She wishes she could turn back time and fix that because she thinks that was the beginning of her boyfriend giving up on her.
“Over time, he grew really negative,” she explained. “It’s unbearable. He used to be belly laughs, sunshine, and smiles.”
“It has pushed me away so badly that nowadays, I genuinely do not enjoy being in the same room as him. This might be obvious, but I do believe we’ve grown apart. Truthfully, I feel like I am the only one that grew, and he didn’t grow with me.”
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“He’s fallen into a pit of apathy and depression and only doomscrolls or lays in bed. He acts like the victim, and everyone is at fault. Even if people do what he wants, it’s not good enough. All he ever does is constantly disagree and claim he is misunderstood.”
She’s done her best to be sympathetic, as have other people in his life, but he’s pushing everyone away for reasons she can’t understand.
She attempted to fix things recently with him by playing some games with him or spending quality time with him, but nothing is helping.
There’s no longer an ability for her to connect with her boyfriend, let alone feel happy or safe with him.
All he wants to talk about when they do speak to one another are dismal, dreary, tragic topics. She thinks this has literally become her boyfriend’s new personality, which is sad.
“He doesn’t engage with me like he used to, and he’s isolated himself,” she continued. “He’s just truly, utterly detached.”
“So many people have told me to leave, and honestly, after typing this all out, I really ought to. It’s obvious he has lost the ability to love anything, including me, because of how sick he is.”
“But what can I do during this process to help him grow or see reason? It will take my time to find a place to move to since I only earn minimum wage, but when I do, what can I say? Or what can I do to help guide him into being a better, happier person again when I’m gone?”
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