Her Husband Is Leaving Her For A Hotter, Younger Woman, And All She Can Think About Is Losing Her Dream Home
There’s something especially cruel about giving your all to someone: sacrificing sleep, putting your own dreams on hold, caring for his family, raising his children, only to find out it was never enough.
She built her marriage around love and loyalty, but the man she trusted decided she wasn’t the woman he wanted anymore.
And while he was sneaking around with a much younger and hotter woman from work, she was at home pouring herself into her kids, her house, and the life they shared.
Now, with two little ones to raise and no job to fall back on, she’s staring down the wreckage of a marriage she thought was unshakable, wondering how everything she invested could be dismissed so easily.
Seven years ago, this 34-year-old woman got married to her 41-year-old husband. She’s always loved him with all of her heart and genuinely believed he felt the same exact way about her.
Eight years ago, her husband developed such severe anxiety that he couldn’t sleep. She would literally stay up all night with him to help him do some breathing exercises to calm down while holding his hands in her own.
She sacrificed her own sleep to do this for him, and in the mornings, she would be completely exhausted, yet still had to go to work.
She got her husband a therapist, and she helped him feel secure enough in himself that he managed to excel in his career, even though it terrified him.
All this is to say, she has done everything possible for her husband over the years.
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“Six years ago, I quit my job to take care of his mom, who had cancer, because he had the potential to earn more than I did,” she explained.
“While I was job hunting again, I got pregnant, and he suggested I stay home to take care of him and our daughter. So I did. I cared for him and I loved him. In December, he got a promotion, which meant more hours. I gave birth to our daughter in March.”
“I went through a phase where I felt horrible, fat, ugly, and it was just me and my baby at home. He barely talked to me, always said he was tired, and that I wouldn’t understand what he had to say. If it wasn’t for my mom staying on video calls with me, I think I would have felt completely abandoned.”
Sensing something was off with her husband, back in June, she started asking him to go to therapy with her, but he would insist that their marriage was completely normal.
Amid feeling lonely in her marriage, she struggled with feeling like she had lost all of herself and was only a mom.
She used to be intriguing. She used to read books. She was never insecure. She could hold down intelligent conversations about art, music, or books.
Then a week ago, her husband arrived home from work much later than normal, and she was excited to see him.
When he walked through the door, she was playing with their daughters in their living room. Her husband sent their oldest to her room and blurted out that while he loves her, he no longer wants to be with her.
“He told me I wasn’t the person he fell in love with anymore. Then he said he was in love with a girl from work, that she was everything he’d ever dreamed of, and that he needed to give himself the chance to live that love without guilt. Yes, he cheated on me with a 22-year-old,” she added.
“When I finally managed to speak, the only thing that came out was, ‘But what about my home decor?’ At some point, I picked up my baby and started shouting things like, ‘I put time into this house! I did everything it needed! This house is mine!'”
“We argued because apparently I didn’t value his suffering enough. I don’t know why I kept talking about the house. I guess I’m disposable.”
She decorated their home by herself and with her own money. It’s the house of her dreams, and she invested years into creating it that way.
She also has a beautiful garden, a vegetable patch, and a chair she sits in with her littlest.
So, here she is, reeling over how her husband is leaving her for a younger woman, and she’s left hung up on losing the house she’s always dreamed of living in.
She’s jobless, with a four-year-old and four-month-old. Her husband has since mentioned he lost his attraction to her since she gained so much weight with her baby.
What advice do you have for her?
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