Marriage is supposed to be the place where loyalty feels unquestionable. Your spouse should be the one person you can always trust implicitly, even in the hardest seasons the universe throws at you. But what happens when the person you built your life with walks away and picks someone other than you?
This 31-year-old woman has spent the last seven years married to her 33-year-old husband, and she thought their marriage was pretty excellent.
They made sure to have date nights every week, they went on vacations together, and they acted like one another’s biggest cheerleaders.
One hardship in their marriage is that they have tried for years to have a baby, but it has not been successful. They’ve encountered many treatments and tests that only led to disappointment and heartbreak.
“I sometimes blamed myself for not being able to give him the family we both wanted, but he always reassured me that he loved me no matter what,” she explained.
“Then, out of nowhere, three months ago, he told me he needed space and moved out. Two weeks later, I found out through a mutual friend that he was actually living with another woman, someone from his gym.”
“At first, I thought maybe he fell in love and that I should just let him go. But then I learned who she really was. This woman had a reputation in town for hard partying. She had been arrested for drug possession twice, had crashed her car while driving under the influence, and had lost custody of her own kid.”
Her husband was completely aware of this woman’s checkered past, and yet he still picked her!
She’s guessing her husband had to have been under the influence or something to make such a bad choice. Anyway, when he left her, she felt devastated.
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From there, her husband quit picking up her phone calls and failed to pay their bills (which they split equally). She was plagued with insomnia, panic attacks, and even a health scare, so she was left to fend for herself.
She finally moved out of the house she had shared with her husband, began therapy, and attempted to pick up the pieces.
Well, a month ago, her husband’s relationship with his new girl imploded after this chick got arrested, wrecked her husband’s car, and stole money from him.
“He came crawling back, crying at my door on drugs. He said he made the biggest mistake of his life, that he let temptation ruin a perfect marriage, and that he’s a changed man,” she added.
“He begged me to forgive him and even brought my mom into it, asking her to convince me; he said countless times that he’d end himself if he can’t be with me. And here is the twist: I don’t hate him, quite [the] opposite, still love him. He was [the] nicest person that anybody [could] ever [meet].”
“He cared [about] me a lot. I’m not talking about normal love, but rather like mutual love. I [made] a lot mistakes. He tried his best to keep our relationship. My mom thinks I should forgive him because marriage means working through hard times. My dad said, he didn’t come back because he loves you; he came back because he has nowhere else to go.”
Some of the friends she and her husband share are calling her heartless for not even wanting to think about reconciling. These people feel that everyone slips up, so they’re defending her husband’s behavior.
Her husband abandoned her and picked another woman over her, and she’s having a hard time forgiving all of that. Her husband is still coming to her front door, sobbing and refusing to leave.
I don’t think she should give her husband a do-over at all. It’s time to kick him to the curb for good, because why wait around and see if he does this again?
Do you think he deserves a second chance?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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