Few statements are as life-changing as the sentence, “I want a divorce.” And sadly, this 32-year-old woman’s husband recently uttered those very words.
They have been together for 10 years and share a 2-year-old child. Yet, her husband, who’s 35, supposedly began having an affair a year and a half ago, and his infatuation with his “new girl” has clouded his view of their marriage.
Ever since her husband announced that he wanted a divorce, he’s been mostly cold and distant.
“Some days, he’s warm and nice. These days are actually harder because it makes me feel like…why is he throwing it all away?” she said.
Perhaps the worst part, though, is the fact that her husband hasn’t even acknowledged his infidelity. Instead, she only found out after seeing his texts with his affair partner on his phone.
And when he brought up divorcing, he claimed they “always had their issues” rather than taking any responsibility for his cheating.
According to her, their relationship had actually been “pretty good” as well. They rarely argued, but after they had a baby together, her husband started seeing his mistress, a saleswoman who works at his department store.
“I really thought he was solid, and that if something was that wrong or bad, he would have talked to me about it,” she explained.
Obviously, though, that’s not what happened. Her husband never opened up to her, refused to attend therapy, and to this day, he won’t own up to the affair.
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“His version is, ‘I lost the spark,’ ‘We weren’t meant to be,’ ‘I always had doubts,’ etc.,” she revealed.
But, despite how hurtful that is, she and her husband are still managing to act civil and haven’t even been fighting. They also already have an appointment to officially initiate the divorce process, which could be finalized within six months if they agree on all the terms.
Nonetheless, she cannot believe that her husband is so stuck in this “affair fog.”
“How can he be so detached and so confident over this stupid new fling? It kills me,” she vented.
“Also, I feel ashamed. The stigma. I didn’t imagine I’d be divorced this young.”
Do you think her husband should feel ashamed for betraying her? Is it better if they split up now so she doesn’t waste any more time with a man who’s disloyal? What advice would you give her?
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By Katharina Buczek
Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing in... More about Katharina Buczek
