You can feel bad for someone, but that doesn’t mean you have to invite them to come live with you, especially if they have a track record of leaving drama in their wake.
This 36-year-old woman has spent the last eight years married to her 37-year-old husband, and they have two young kids together.
She does not get along with her mother-in-law because this woman is an expert at violating boundaries, getting into public fights, and failing to own up to her mistakes.
Now, her mother-in-law is homeless, and her husband is making her out to be ruthless and cold-hearted for not allowing her to move in with them.
Next, allow her to give you the laundry list of reasons why she no longer gets along that well with her mother-in-law.
Before she got married, her mother-in-law brought drama to pretty much anything and everything. While the bachelor and bachelorette parties were ongoing, her mother-in-law accused her own dad of stealing.
Then, during the wedding, her mother-in-law showed up in a nearly-white jumpsuit, got drunk, and walked around the hotel banging on people’s doors in an effort to get them to keep on partying it up.
“While I was pregnant, she texted me saying I shouldn’t ‘use pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy,’ because my husband was doing laundry. At the time, we lived on the top floor of a triplex, and he didn’t want me carrying heavy loads up multiple flights of stairs,” she explained.
When she did go into labor, her mother-in-law came to the hospital without an invitation and waited around until she had delivered her baby.
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From there, she ranted on Facebook about how she was not permitted to hold her granddaughter, and this was before her husband had even held the baby. Oh, and her mother-in-law hadn’t even asked to hold the baby!
She gave birth to her son during the pandemic, which meant nobody was allowed to visit the hospital, and on top of that, she got extremely sick before having him.
Her mother-in-law told her husband she would be staying at their house for an entire week, but her husband told her no. Her mother-in-law proceeded to go on another Facebook tirade, insisting they were not allowing her to see her grandson.
Going further off the deep end, her mother-in-law reached out to her dad to say he was harming their daughter emotionally. As punishment, her husband made her mother-in-law wait until Christmas to meet their son.
“She has insulted me directly in the past, including calling me an ‘over-educated idiot.’ She has also lashed out over minor issues, such as offering us furniture, being told politely that we didn’t have space, and then accusing us of being ungrateful,” she added.
Adding to the insufferability of her mother-in-law, this woman acts as if every single person has it out for her and that any issues are not her fault.
She loves playing the victim, has problems with drinking, and has pushed a ton of people out of her life. On Mother’s Day three years ago, her mother-in-law emailed her to say she knew she hated her and said her husband was a liar.
Her mother-in-law had blocked her husband back then after he declined to give her money when asked. She finally cut all contact with her mother-in-law.
“Now, to the current issue: Recently, she set fire to her apartment and was evicted. She had an opportunity to regain her housing if she dropped a lawsuit against the building, but she believed she would win and refused,” she added.
“Why she had a lawsuit with the building when the fire was her our fault, I have no idea. She lost the case and is now homeless and staying in a shelter. My husband wants to let her stay with us.”
“I have said no because I believe it would destroy our marriage, I would not feel safe or comfortable in my own home, and based on her history, she would not respect boundaries, and we would never be able to get her to leave and find her own place. Even her own daughter (my SIL) has refused to take her in.”
Don’t get her wrong, she does have a degree of compassion for her mother-in-law, but her being homeless is due to her own bad choices in life.
She is not interested in wrecking her mental health or her marriage to help her mother-in-law out. Regardless, she’s wondering if she’s a jerk for not wanting to take her in.
I am surprised her husband isn’t siding with her on this one. I get it’s his mom, but this woman is awful and absolutely will cause issues between them.
It’s time to print out the list of reasons she has to support how terrible her husband’s mom is to remind him of why she’s saying no.
Also, considering that her mother-in-law burned her own home down, it could happen to their house if they welcomed her inside.
What do you think?
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