Imagine your husband tells you he’s nervous about losing his GPS signal while camping with his brother, only for you to find out his brother never even left his house.
So, your husband is out there in the woods, presumably not alone, and he’s not the only thing that goes off the grid; your trust does too.
Two weeks ago, this 37-year-old woman’s 37-year-old husband said he wanted to go camping last weekend with his brother and his friend.
Her husband texted her to ask about this, so she’s not making it up. She responded that she was not happy about the camping trip, since their 5-year-old daughter had a cheer competition, which meant she would have to drag their 6-year-old son along with her, and it was going to be an exhausting day.
As a compromise, her husband said he could organize a babysitter, but she still would be tasked with having to drive their son to the babysitter, which was adding more stress to her day.
Luckily, their daughter’s performance turned out to be later than expected, so their son went along too. Her husband then told her that his friend was unable to go camping, so it would just be him and his brother alone on the trip in the woods.
“Wednesday night before he left, he specifically said he was nervous with the Verizon outages because he ‘and his brother’ both have Verizon and they’re hoping they don’t lose access to GPS,” she explained.
“Thursday morning, he texts me made it to the campsite safely. I don’t hear from him again. Friday at noon, I reach out to make sure he’s alive (he usually texts me life checks daily when camping). I get no response.”
“By 6 pm, I am nervous and text my sister-in-law to see if BIL was able to contact her. That’s when she replies, ‘Ma’am, what are you talking about? My husband is on the couch next to me.’ I. Saw. Red. In my mind, my husband is still camping, but used his brother as a manipulative tool because he assumes I won’t want to ruin his good time.”
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Adding to her frustration, she hates that her husband never uses his time off to help her with the kids. She works full-time and has to care for their children all on her own, and they require a lot, given how little they are.
Anyway, last Saturday her husband eventually sent her a text message stating he had service again and was on his way home. She didn’t bother responding.
Her husband proceeded to call her, and she didn’t pick up, as she had their daughter in the car and didn’t want to start a fight in front of her.
She did text him later on to call him out for lying to her face. Her husband lied again and insisted he was not lying to her; he just had to change his plans since it was too late to ask his brother to go too after finding out their daughter’s cheer time got bumped back for the competition.
Since coming home, her husband has been staying in the basement. When he’s not at work, he’s busy pretending she doesn’t exist, since he’s angry that she’s so furious with him.
“IMO, he lied to me. He manipulated me. Instead of apologizing when he was caught, doubled down and is using my anger against me. The fact is, I no longer can trust him and contacted an attorney,” she continued.
She’s left wondering if she’s overreacting.
I don’t think she is at all! It’s so suspicious that her husband blamed Verizon for being unreachable. I’ll bet that he was using the camping trip to cheat on her, because this doesn’t add up at all.
If I were her, I would pull his phone and credit card records to see if there is more to be pieced together here. Regardless, lying about camping with your sibling is a big no-no, and I don’t think the trust can ever be rebuilt.
What do you think? Is using a family member as a cover for your whereabouts a total relationship dealbreaker?
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