How would you feel if your spouse irrationally flipped out on you for failing to drive them home from a hospital appointment they left without telling you about?
This 45-year-old woman has a husband the same age as her who is extremely claustrophobic. They have been together for 22 years and married for 18 of those.
Anyway, her husband has to go in for an MRI of his brain as he’s been having problems with his vision. However, because he’s so claustrophobic, it’s been a struggle for him to get an MRI done.
“We tried on anxiety meds twice, and he left both times. After 8 months of trying to schedule a sedation MRI, we were finally able to get him in this morning,” she explained.
“He has to get dental work sedated as well. The MRI team agreed to use the same medication that his dentist uses. I explained that and he agreed.”
“When the MRI team started describing the medication and that he may be awake, just sleepy, he refused, and they called me to come pick him up.”
Now, she and her husband are caretakers for his grandma, and that day, she was at grandma’s house helping her get ready to go to her hair appointment.
When the hospital called her, she drove the three miles over there to pick up her husband, which took her about 10 minutes. But when she arrived, her husband had vanished.
She knew he had his phone on him, as well as his wallet, and he had no sedation, so he was clearly out there functioning on his own.
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She proceeded to drive around trying to find her husband, as she assumed that perhaps he had started to walk home. She located her husband half a mile from the hospital, and he was walking back to their place. Her husband was furious and began screaming at her.
“I yelled back because I was scared, didn’t know where he was, and I was frustrated from trying to schedule this important MRI for months,” she said.
“So, he slams the door and gets back out. I drive around the corner, tell him to get back in. But I also have to get grandma to her appt. He won’t get in, so I try one more time and leave. We are about 2 miles from home. He walks home. I get [grandma] to her appt.”
Grandma has a weekly hair appointment, but this one was extra important, as it takes longer than normal since she gets her hair cut and colored.
She dropped grandma off and arrived back home, where she and her husband got into a blowout fight. Her husband accused her of lying about the MRI sedation and then abandoning him.
Her husband apparently wanted her to keep driving around the block and begging him to get in the car, so she’s left wondering if she was wrong to leave him in order to get grandma taken care of.
Her husband is acting like a child, which very well may be stemming from a health issue, given his vision problems, so he definitely needs that MRI so they can investigate if his behavior is the cause of something related to his brain.
She should look into getting him into an open MRI, which is designed to reduce claustrophobia. All of that aside, I think she needs to wait and see what the results indicate, and no, she’s not a jerk for failing to drive her husband home after he wouldn’t get in the car.
He’s a capable adult who could have called an Uber or something instead of getting mad at her for helping care for his grandma.
What do you think?
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