One of the biggest wedding etiquette rules is to never, ever wear white, as that upstages the bride. Sure, there can be exceptions, but they’re about as rare as getting struck by lightning, and I have not in all my years on earth heard of a bride being cool with a guest stealing her color.
So, what would you do if your spouse insisted on wearing white to a wedding to intentionally insult and hurt the bride? Would you go alone? Force them to change?
This man’s wife and his brother’s wife basically hate one another, and they’re both not perfect people, as his wife is quick to anger and his sister-in-law is the opposite of a saint.
Apparently, his wife has worn white to a wedding before to offend a bride, and her plan was to wear a white dress to his brother’s wedding too.
He told his wife not to do it, and he knows she can be quite petty, but he thought she would listen since this was his brother’s wedding, after all.
His wife agreed not to sink to their sister-in-law’s level, and she was upset that he was not included in his brother’s wedding party and was only a guest.
He warned his wife that if she dared to pull a stunt like showing up in a white dress, he would prevent her from being there at the event.
She ended up purchasing a black dress and promised to wear it for the wedding, so he thought she was being serious.
On the day of the wedding, his wife came out in a white dress. He freaked out and demanded to know what was wrong with her for doing that.
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“She said I wouldn’t understand and that I shouldn’t involve myself in women’s disagreements. I told her to just stop and changed or I wouldn’t take her with me,” he explained.
“She argued about returning the black dress because it was too tight, which was true, but I’m sure this was [a] deliberate move on her part.”
“She tried to get me to let it go as we were late for the wedding, but I insisted she change. I told her she was ruining this for MY BROTHER, not just SIL. She refused, I called her petty, then left.”
That’s right, he went to the wedding alone. Everyone was questioning him about where his wife was, and they all presumed it was because of his wife’s grudge against his brother’s bride.
His wife sent him eleven texts saying nasty things, then went to stay with her sister. His wife’s sister then called him and accused him and his loved ones of being horrible and toxic.
He prevented his brother and his bride from hearing all about the drama, but his mom feels they should know how terrible his wife is.
“Now I’m stuck between family and my wife, who refuses to come [home], saying I need to ‘make it right,’ whatever that means,” he continued.
“My question is [am I the jerk] for not letting her go to the wedding wearing white? Should I have just left this between her and SIL? I did this for my brother.”
Since his wife hates his brother’s wife so much, I don’t understand why she just sat herself out of this one. I think he did the right thing, barring his wife from causing a scene and, quite frankly, embarrassing him.
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