Wedding dresses are literally made to be altered so that they can fit their respective brides perfectly. It’s a much better idea for a bride to buy a wedding dress that’s too big, as opposed to too small, as the alteration process is a whole lot easier.
Unfortunately, this bride was pressured into purchasing a wedding dress that she cannot squish into, and now she’s freaking out over what to do.
This 30-year-old woman’s wedding is causing her nothing but stress and anxiety, because she’s supposed to somehow squeeze into a wedding dress that’s way too small for her. The pressure is on, and she feels like her wedding is going to be a dumpster fire.
She’s been on a weight loss journey recently and is taking a GLP-1 to help. She’s down 34 pounds since November of last year, which she would have probably been thrilled about, if not for the wedding dress conundrum.
“I’ve been big my whole life. Struggled a lot with it and finally met my fiancé, who made me feel beautiful. I’ve never felt like a big girl with him, but I have been insecure over my weight in other aspects,” she explained.
“I never planned on losing weight for the wedding, but his family made comments that put me in a place where I felt I should be trying to lose weight.”
“My fiancé told me not to worry about it, but since there was pressure from his family, I felt the need to give it a try. I have conflicting feelings, as I’m happy I’m losing, but I hate that it wasn’t my idea. I went dress shopping in January; I dreaded it.”
She did try on a dress that made her feel gorgeous, and she actually cried because she felt like a princess with it on her. It was a touching moment, and her mother-in-law purchased the dress for her.
But as they were filling out the paperwork to order it and handing over the credit card, her mother-in-law changed the size.
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She needed to have a size 22, and her mother-in-law wrote down a size 20, while pointing out how she was in the process of losing weight.
She hates herself for not having spoken up, but she felt terrible since her mother-in-law bought it. When she got back home, she sobbed to her fiancé about what had happened in the bridal shop. Her fiancé phoned his mom and got into a blowout fight with her over the dress.
“I’ve been nervous since that day. The bridal salon messaged me an update that my dress is showing it’ll arrive by June 13th. I could see the measurements on the screen of the new dress, and they made my heart sink,” she said.
“My waist is 5 inches bigger than the measurement on there. [The] bridal salon said they can’t do anything, [my] future mother-in-law says I can ‘use it as motivation.’ [My] fiancé said we can buy the dress in the bigger size, but I didn’t even have the money for the first one.”
“I feel like this is ruined for me. The reason I loved the dress is because I didn’t feel like a big girl in it. Now that I’m literally too big for the dress, I feel awful about it. I can’t stop crying over it. I know people are going to say I can add a corset back (I hate that idea), but it’s more about how this situation was. I just hate that I feel this way.”
I mean, I don’t see why she hasn’t asked the place they bought the dress from if they can swap the size from 20 to 22. They very well may be able to accommodate that, or they could end up charging her a small restocking fee (some places do that), in order to get the different size.
She won’t know unless she asks! Then, if she loses more weight before the wedding, they can take her dress in and make sure it fits her perfectly.
If it’s not possible to exchange the dress for a size that fits her, I think she should wait and see how much weight she can lose by the time it comes in, then take the dress to a seamstress to see what solutions they have. There may be more options than putting a corset back in.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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