When someone blows up your relationship by cheating, do they really get to have opinions about how fast you move on?
Back in October, this man’s girlfriend at the time, whom he had been with for three years, wound up cheating on him with her childhood friend.
His girlfriend’s affair partner was visiting from another state, and she ran into him in a club. He found it hilarious that she went with that as her story, and he later on found some horrific things in her phone that confirmed his worst fears.
“Anyways, as soon as I found out, I broke up with her, and I’m going to be completely honest, I was hurting really bad,” he explained.
“I’ve been cheated on before, and she knew it was a sore spot for me, so unlike last time, I wasn’t just hurt, but I was also feeling super betrayed. I made contact with a mutual friend I met through her, and within that first week, we had slept together.”
A couple of weeks later, he and his now-ex-girlfriend were still on speaking terms, and they arranged to meet up to trade their personal items.
While doing that, his ex questioned him about how he was feeling and whether or not he had hooked up with someone else. He thinks their mutual friend tipped his ex off to their hookup.
He didn’t lie and told his ex the truth, and well, that caused her to completely melt down on him, and with tons of people there to witness the drama unfold.
“Mind you, we met in a public park in the city, so lots of people around, she’s going off at me and is disgusted in me and tells me ‘you didn’t waste any time,'” he added.
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“Now, I admit I was hurting a lot because I loved this person and shared lots of personal/intimate details about my life that I’ve never opened up to anyone else about before, I allowed myself to be SO VULNERABLE with her, and she threw it in my face.”
“I always told her if she were to cheat, that’s fine, simply break up with me, do not continue dating me, and lying to me, that’s all I ask. She tells me that I must of never loved her and was probably faking it the whole time because of how easy it was for me to do that (really contradicting).”
He’s currently worried that he was wrong to have slept with another girl so fast after the breakup. It has also occurred to him that he shouldn’t have slept with their mutual friend, whom he met through his ex.
It’s worth mentioning that he was truthful with their mutual friend and said he only wanted to sleep with her to make himself feel better.
It’s not like he was secretly harboring feelings for this girl, and she was cool with why he wanted to hook up in the first place.
“She told me my ex was a rude person and sided with me. But I still wonder if that makes me a bad person,” he concluded.
No, his ex doesn’t get to have a say in his life or who he chooses to sleep with! She’s delusional and the last person who should be passing any kind of judgment on what he’s doing.
Since he got his belongings back, he should block his ex so she can no longer contact him.
Do you think he moved on too fast, or with an inappropriate person?
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