Ghosting has become so common in modern dating that most people have just come to terms with it being part of the process. But after seven real dates and the promise of a genuine connection, she wasn’t willing to simply accept that it’s just how things go now.
For the last couple of weeks, this 30-year-old woman has been dating a 36-year-old man after meeting him on a dating app. They’ve been on seven official dates so far, and everything was pretty amazing between them.
“We saw each other pretty consistently, had a great connection, and slept together multiple times. It wasn’t just surface-level, either; we had real conversations, good chemistry, and I genuinely felt like this had potential,” she explained.
“The dynamic felt balanced at first. He showed interest, made plans, and even talked about future ideas (like things we could do together). Nothing over the top or love-bomby, just steady and fun.”
“Then, after our last date (which was genuinely really nice, we ordered takeout, talked, [hooked up], slept over, etc., something shifted.”
This guy quit speaking to her as much, and when he did reply, he was very terse. He didn’t make an effort to plan an eighth date, which was unlike him.
On Sunday, she celebrated her birthday, and he didn’t say Happy Birthday to her until 4 in the afternoon. After Sunday, he has not responded to her at all.
Her last text to him was about his upcoming vacation plans. She could see that he read her message, but she was met with silence, and it’s been more than 24 hours since then.
“What bothers me isn’t even that it might not work out; I understand dating is about figuring that out. What bothers me is how he’s handling it,” she added.
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“We didn’t go on 1–2 casual dates. We spent real time together, slept together multiple times, and built some level of connection. And now I’m just being… ghosted?”
“I can’t wrap my head around how a 36-year-old man thinks this is an acceptable way to end things. I’m not planning to chase him or double-text. I also don’t think I want to continue this, even if he comes back with some excuse, because this behavior already turned me off.”
She feels disappointed, confused, and hurt that this guy can’t even treat her with a basic level of decency, especially after all the time they have invested in their dates so far. Seven dates are a lot, after all.
After spending some time thinking about whether this is what it’s like to date nowadays and if this guy was being rude or just showing a lack of maturity, she decided to do something about it.
She ended up sending him another text stating that she had a nice time with him, but she can tell he’s no longer excited about her. She wished him all the best and expressed how let down she felt.
He actually did get back to her and said he just isn’t feeling it.
“He’s just not that into me, no problem, just hoped he would communicate it like an adult!” she exclaimed.
It takes five seconds to let someone know that you’re no longer interested in seeing them, and I am ashamed of this guy for not having the decency to do that.
I understand she probably feels rejected, but she can’t let this trash bag of a man get her down. It’s not hard to be honest instead of stringing someone along.
Do you think she handled this in the best way?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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