If your child accused your spouse of something terrible, and you jumped to conclusions instead of giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt, would you blame them for leaving you?
This woman has a son from her first marriage who is 13. She got remarried five years ago and currently has a newborn with her new husband.
“He denied it vehemently, and I kinda was not hearing it. He walked away from me. After I calmed down, I talked to him, and he said that he didn’t hit him and he has no obligation to prove anything,” she explained.
“So if I want to be mad, be mad in another room. I did leave. At night, when I joined him in the bed, he said he wanted a divorce. He said that my son lied, and he doesn’t care why he lied.”
“Whether he is jealous of him or wants me for himself, he is not interested in finding out. He doesn’t wanna deal with it, and he doesn’t want to be accused of something he didn’t do. So he is out.”
She did speak to her son at length about his version of events, and he was defensive and evasive, which makes her think he’s not telling the truth.
However, as his mom, she does have a duty to protect him at all costs. She’s left wondering if she ruined her marriage for nothing and what she should do about it.
She’s not sure how to figure out what actually happened. If her son did lie to her face, she needs to deal with that. But as for her husband, he left her.
“I was not gonna leave him over just one slap without knowing the full story. He has never shown aggression towards him or anyone. I would have tried other methods first. Is that bad? Am I a bad mom for it that I didn’t jump to divorce straight away?” she asked.
“I have tried to talk to my husband, but he basically said that he doesn’t want to be painted as a bad person. It’s not like he can prove his innocence. So he would rather not wait for another false accusation and just protect himself.”
False accusations ruin lives, and I’m inclined to believe that her son is the liar here, not her husband, otherwise her son would not have been elusive and defensive.
I don’t fault her husband for drawing a hard line in the sand and wanting a divorce, because her son absolutely could destroy his life with his lies.
I am curious what else her kid would be capable of accusing her husband of. I highly doubt this is the first incident of her blindly siding with her son, no matter what, and her husband is wise to call it quits on their marriage.
She should have confronted her son for more details before jumping to accuse her husband of doing something deplorable. She proved her loyalty lies with her son over her spouse by condemning him before getting the whole story.
She even said it herself that her husband is not aggressive in the least, so why did she believe her son? Sounds like this kid was looking to ruin her marriage.
What advice do you have for her?
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