If your spouse made a financial decision that you didn’t approve of and that wasn’t a secret to them, how would you feel?
This woman is 38 weeks pregnant, and that means she could be in labor any day this week. Not too long ago, her husband’s friend asked him if he could borrow some money.
She informed her husband that this made her uneasy, especially considering their baby is about to arrive. She requested that her husband not give his friend any money at all.
Well, a couple of days later, her husband announced that he had given his friend money behind her back, and she felt deeply hurt by that.
To be clear, the money alone is not what’s so upsetting to her; it’s that she and her husband discussed the money ahead of time, and she expressed her feelings to him, which he ultimately ignored, and only told her after the fact that he did what she asked him not to.
That broke her trust in her husband, and speaking of trust, her husband’s friend, whom he gave the cash to, isn’t trustworthy either. This man has lied to her husband’s face, talked about him, and always asks him for money.
Additionally, her husband’s friend is making it pretty much impossible for her husband to leave the business they own together.
“Even after all that, my husband still struggles to say no to him because he says he wants to make everyone happy. On top of that, my husband’s boss had agreed to let him work from home because I’m about to give birth,” she explained.
“But because he didn’t communicate properly with a colleague before they went on holiday, it now looks like he’ll have to go into work instead of being at home with me if I need him.”
“When I told him how hurt I was, he said he’s just trying to make everyone happy and that people always end up turning against him. But from my perspective, by trying to keep everyone else happy, he’s the one disappointing me.”
She’s not happy with her husband for ignoring the needs of their family, as well as turning a blind eye to how his decisions impact her.
They are in the process of creating a future, and they need to be making choices together instead of separately. It’s not cool to her that she’s finding out about things her husband is doing after they have already occurred.
She actually mentioned to her husband that he is wrecking their marriage, since she’s losing trust in him and his ability to judge situations effectively.
Her husband feels she’s being dramatic, and he reiterated that he just wanted to help his friend.
It’s high time her husband learns how to grow a spine and say no. He’s an adult who absolutely should not be loaning money to someone who is constantly in need of financial assistance at the expense of his wife and unborn baby.
Her husband is not putting her or their family first, and that’s unacceptable. I’m very concerned that her husband is only focused on keeping everyone in his life happy…except her.
Her wants, needs, and emotions don’t even rank to her husband at all. Her husband couldn’t make it any clearer that he just doesn’t respect her or their marriage, so she’s correct in calling him out for ruining their relationship.
What do you think?
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