If your spouse made you give up custody of your child and hand them over to your ex, what would you do? Would you figure out a way to exit your marriage faster than planned?
This woman is currently in a downward spiral over what her husband did to her 10-year-old son with ADHD, Alex. Yesterday evening, Alex was talking to his dad (her ex) over the phone, and her husband overheard what Alex was saying.
The phone call ended in an enormous fight between her husband and Alex, and now her husband is forcing her to give up custody of Alex over it.
So, Alex informed his dad that she and her husband would not allow him to watch TV at their house and that he had to go hungry for hours on end. While she admits that her husband is truly awful, Alex did lie about these things to his dad.
“1) Alex has been watching TV for the entire weekend, all day, every day, we only won’t allow him to watch YouTube (because he always defaults to the most brain-rot, awful short-form content when he’s allowed, so we don’t),” she explained.
“2) He ate a huge bowl of cereal for breakfast, a chicken sandwich and lots of fries for lunch, snacks all day, and I just hadn’t gotten around to starting dinner yet (this was about 5 pm).”
“My husband goes off on Alex and tells him that he can just go live with his dad. In a rage, he contacts my ex and tells him that Alex is coming to live with him after the summer is over.”
Her husband is super controlling and abusive to her, but she won’t leave him for another two years, as that is when she will graduate from college.
She doesn’t have a support system, and she doesn’t work since her collegiate program requires that she not have a job and essentially be committed to them from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. every day during the week.
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Her parents won’t help her get out of her marriage, and she’s not on good terms with her ex, though he is a nice guy, so it’s not like she can turn to him for help.
“Part of me does want my son to live with my ex so that he’s not exposed to my husband’s treatment of me (and lesser verbal abuse towards himself), but the mom in me is SO GUTTED,” she continued.
“I’m crying. I’ve never been away from my son for so long in his life, like I’ve had primary custody since he was born. But it does feel selfish on my part to want him to stay.”
“My husband won’t give me the choice anyway…I can’t get away from this vile man fast enough.”
I honestly can’t believe that she’s not choosing her son here. That’s sure to damage their relationship for the rest of their lives. She should quit school, get a job, and do what it takes to leave her husband ASAP.
Spending the next two years married to him is not a good idea.
What advice do you have for her?
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