If you hit a tough time financially and had to make a sacrifice that really angered your significant other, would you take that as a sign that a breakup is inevitable?
This man, unfortunately, got laid off from his job in the tech industry slightly before he started seriously dating his girlfriend. A month ago, his unemployment money ran out, and he has really struggled to find another job, but that’s just how things are in his industry at the moment.
“I own my 2BR2BA condo with a fairly pricy mortgage. To try and stay afloat, I’m taking a much lower-paying job and taking on a roommate, which should be enough to stabilize and still afford both mortgage payments and food/fun,” he explained.
“My girlfriend absolutely melted down at the idea, and has been picking fights with me ever since (for the last month). She’ll get irritated at me about something minor, and eventually escalate to saying she’ll ‘never come over/sleepover again once you have a roommate.'”
“She also makes passive-aggressive comments about it pretty much every time we hang out or talk, and keeps asking, ‘When are you getting a roommate?'”
He thinks his girlfriend is acting in a drastic and immature way. It also doesn’t help that she routinely blows up over things and is adverse to change.
He doesn’t have any other options to bail himself out of his financial hardship aside from getting himself a roommate.
He also does not feel like he’s at a point in the relationship where he would be comfortable inviting his girlfriend to move in with him, especially given her behavior.
His girlfriend is treating him like he’s intentionally trying to hurt her by adding a roommate to his house. He’s left wondering if this is grounds for a breakup, or if there’s a way to get his girlfriend to stop being so angry at him.
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I’m really not getting why his girlfriend is so furious, but it has to be that she’s not happy he didn’t ask her to be his new roommate.
It’s smart of him to move someone else into his place who can help him afford his mortgage, and he needs to prioritize his security and the literal roof over his head over his girlfriend’s feelings.
His girlfriend sounds like a headache, and she should be giving him sympathy (or money) if nothing else here. I do think he should consider breaking up with her, because it’s ridiculous that she makes nasty comments to him over the whole roommate thing and has chosen this topic for her latest meltdown.
She doesn’t seem like a rational or respectable adult.
What do you think?
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