Some people are down on their luck, while others find someone willing to fund their whole life while they sit at home all day doing nothing.
She’s actually been funding her boyfriend’s entire life, and the one time she asked him to cover his own bills, he called her a gold digger and ended their relationship.
For the last year and a half, this 26-year-old woman and her 28-year-old boyfriend have been together, and she’s been the breadwinner from the get-go.
Her boyfriend had two different jobs and worked for five months in total throughout their entire relationship. As for her, she’s held the same job, and it’s one she’s had since before her boyfriend came into her life.
At one point, they did even get engaged, but she’s not sure where she stands with her boyfriend at all after she requested that he get a job in order to pay for his car and phone. That’s all she asked him to foot the bills for.
“I’ll pay the rent, the utilities, the food…everything else, just please cover your own [stuff]. But now I’m being told that I [am] a gold digger because I’ll just ‘take advantage’ of him if he gets a job, because he’ll have the money for me to take,” she explained.
“He’s mentally not as well as anyone would hope, and had an episode the other day and broke everything off before packing and leaving.”
“Now it’s my fault for being a little bit distant and needing certain things to change in order for me to even be able to buy myself clothes, let alone continue the relationship. I love him, but I don’t think I can do it anymore. He has squatter’s rights to the house we live in, and I rent, so it’d be a whole process to get him out.”
She has absolutely no money (probably because her boyfriend spent it all), and her loved ones are not willing to come to her rescue, so she’s left feeling terribly alone.
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She’s not sure what to do, but she knows she put herself in a bad situation, and she realizes she reeks of desperation for being with this man.
“Believe me, there’s nothing y’all could tell me that I haven’t already said to myself. I’m so angry and ashamed [of] myself for allowing this to happen,” she continued.
“I’m disgusted with myself for letting all of this go just to avoid being alone.”
It’s positively wild to me that her boyfriend is calling her a gold digger when that’s exactly what he is. He’s mooching off her, so no wonder he’s unemployed.
She made this man far too comfortable, and now that she’s asking him to pitch in, he’s blowing a fit. She should use this as her chance to get rid of this parasite.
The first thing she needs to do is cut him off and quit paying for anything for him, and then she needs to figure out how to start the eviction process.
What advice do you have for her?
By Bre Avery Zacharski
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