This woman has a niece who has been diagnosed with a psychiatric disorder known as oppositional defiant disorder. Children who have oppositional defiant disorder are disobedient, defiant, hostile, and spiteful.
They act like this towards their parents or other adults viewed as authority figures. Her niece is only nine, and she’s the most destructive and aggressive person she has ever met in her life.
She’s completely and utterly afraid of this kid, and she is aware that sounds terrible, but that’s just her speaking the truth. Recently, her sister said she was dropping by her house to pick up tools she borrowed, and she reassured her that she would be alone.
But then her sister brought her niece along without warning. They were standing in her garage, and her sister said she told her niece to stand right by the front door and not move.
“While we were talking in the garage, my niece emptied two tubes of toothpaste down the drain in my bathroom. She also tore the shower curtain down,” she explained.
“I’m not concerned about the shower curtain as I am about the drain. My main concern is the drain ending up with a clog. My niece says she was angry at me because I stopped her from tearing the stuffing out of the mattress in my parents’ guest room.”
“She did that to their mattress because they made her apologize to their neighbor after she threw rocks at their neighbor’s car.”
Now, she does not permit her niece inside her house anymore after she continuously broke her windows, and her sister is aware that she has banned her niece.
The windows aren’t even the worst of it; her niece has done a mountain of damage to her house. She has tried her hardest to be empathetic with her sister, considering her niece.
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She knows her sister and brother-in-law are trying their absolutely hardest in the face of an impossible situation: parenting their monster of a child with a mental health issue.
“They both try. They have taken her to [a] children’s hospital here and for treatments in other provinces. They have her schooled by private tutors who specialize in children with behavioral issues, since she cannot attend a traditional school,” she continued.
“I feel horrible when I think about how terrified my niece makes me. The toothpaste in the drain may be minor compared to the thousands [of dollars] in damage my niece has done to my house and my possessions, but I can’t help but be angry.”
“I have never met someone else who purposely tries to hurt everyone around her. The drain is the last straw in a long line of damage, and now I have to make sure the toothpaste doesn’t cause a bigger issue.”
Shame on her sister for not respecting the ban after all of the damage her kid has caused. That’s just not acceptable. She should make her sister pay for a plumber to come over and ensure that her drain isn’t clogged.
It might be better to go low contact with her sister and put some space between them so that her niece can’t cause more issues for her.
What advice do you have for her?
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