If your ex, who cheated on you, reached out to you years later, expecting you to save their marriage by telling their spouse how their prior affairs were just misunderstandings, would you feel inclined to bail them out?
This 34-year-old man has an ex named Jenna, whom he dated close to a decade ago. Out of the blue, she recently sent him a message asking if he could tell her husband why he broke up with her.
They spent close to three years dating, and their relationship was completely serious. They had conversations about getting married and having kids.
He really believed Jenna was the woman for him. But one evening, a strange man called him, wanting to know if he was dating Jenna.
He confirmed that he was, and the man on the other end of the line fell silent before saying he was also dating Jenna at the same time.
“Turns out she’d been seeing both of us for almost a year. He thought he was her boyfriend, too. I didn’t confront her in person. I packed up her stuff, dropped it off while she was at work, and sent one text saying I know everything, don’t contact me again,” he explained.
Jenna spent the next several weeks blowing up his phone, claiming to be puzzled while not wanting him to leave. He blocked her and went on with his life, and that happened nine years ago.
Well, a week ago, he was shocked to get a message from Jenna on an account he was unaware of. Jenna is currently married and has two children.
Jenna’s husband came across some of her old messages and wanted to know if she had cheated on any of her past partners. Instead of coming clean, Jenna thought roping him into the mess seemed like a solid plan.
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“She asked if I would explain what happened because, and this is her exact wording, ‘it’ll sound less horrible if it comes from you.’ I actually laughed when I read that,” he added.
“Less horrible. Like, I’m supposed to help her turn cheating on two guys for a year into some kind of misunderstanding. I ignored her, but she messaged again, saying she’s trying to save her marriage and I’m the only person who can help.”
“Part of me thinks I don’t owe her anything. Another part of me thinks if her husband is asking these questions and she’s still minimizing what she did, he probably deserves the truth. But I also don’t want to get dragged into their marriage and somehow become the bad guy.”
He’s left wondering if he should continue to give Jenna the cold shoulder. He’s also curious if he should come clean to Jenna’s husband in case this guy reaches out to him directly.
I’m literally sitting here laughing out loud over Jenna’s audacity. Karma is coming for her, and why is it his job to bail her out when he’s one of her victims?
Jenna is completely delusional for expecting him to want to save her marriage, and I’m sure her husband already knows enough to paint a picture of what she did in the past.
He should block Jenna, and I wonder if her husband came across current proof of her being unfaithful, because once a cheater, always a cheater, right?
What advice do you have for him?
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