I truly believe that there are certain cruel things people can do to their loved ones, and the only punishment that fits the crime is them never being entitled to favors or kindness from the person they hurt ever again.
So how would you feel if your spouse cheated on you, which resulted in an affair child that they then expected you to step in and raise after their affair partner ditched them?
This man’s ex-wife cheated on him back while they were still married and promptly got pregnant with her affair partner’s child in the middle of their divorce.
The pregnancy derailed their divorce proceedings, since he lives in a state that prohibits you from pursuing a divorce if your wife is pregnant. Yikes.
“I also had to be DNA tested when the baby was born to prove I was not the father, and so my name was not kept on the birth certificate, which was automatic because we were married,” he explained.
He and his ex-wife share a son, who is eight, and her affair child is three. His ex’s baby daddy walked out on them and wants nothing to do with their kid.
His ex’s baby daddy refuses to pay child support, but his ex is trying to force him to give her money. As for him, he’s not required to pay child support since he and his wife have shared custody and split everything fairly.
“For the past 6 or so months, my ex has been trying to get me to take on her younger child and be a father to both of the kids. She has jumped out of the car at exchanges and takes the 3-year-old up to me,” he added.
“She sits right next to me at our son’s games or school plays, etc. When she does sit next to me, she will try to come up with reasons I need to hold her child for a second, and I either turn my back to her or get out of the seat so she can’t simply dump her child in my arms/my lap.”
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His son even told him that his ex packs a little bag for her affair child and keeps it out, just in case he ever says yes to letting both kids come over to his house.
He is grateful to his son for staying out of the drama, but his ex doesn’t care when he says he’s not helping be a parent to her other kid.
She will not take no for an answer.
“She told me all kids deserve all the love, and her child is innocent of the cheating, and she wants the kids to be close, but there’s going to be a big gap when our son has a loving dad, and her other child doesn’t,” he continued.
“I’m taking steps to avoid being in these situations, but it’s hard. I want my son to always see me at his games and plays. I don’t want to end up snapping at my ex and potentially hurting the feelings of an innocent child, but still, a child I do not want a relationship with. I’m not sure what I do from here. But I am beyond frustrated.”
Wow, his ex and her affair child are not his circus and not his monkeys. She’s delusional for thinking he should step up to be a dad to the child she made with the man she cheated on him with!
She’s actually the worst for trying to manipulate him into playing house with her after she’s the one who wrecked their marriage with her selfishness.
He should just keep reminding her that her affair child is not his problem or his responsibility, and he should go out of his way to find a seat where there is nothing open beside him when he attends events for his son, to stop his ex from throwing her kid at him.
What advice do you have for him?
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