Giving birth is incredibly stressful, and not every woman wants her family members in the hospital room with her right after popping a baby out.
Do you think a woman’s wishes surrounding labor and delivery should always be respected, even if it means upsetting her own family in the process?
This man and his wife spoke at length about what she wanted to do in the days before their son was born. They both came to the conclusion that they didn’t want anyone coming to visit them or their son in the hospital on the day of his birth, not even their closest family members.
His wife was told in advance that she would have to get a C-section, and so he informed her mom of that information. His mother-in-law stated that she wanted to know when it was possible to come visit his wife in the hospital afterward, and he promised to give her a heads-up when his wife was open to visitors.
“I texted our group chat for my wife’s side of the family, updating them that the procedure went well and that mama and baby were doing perfect,” he explained.
“She (wife’s mom) replied and said, ‘I know you didn’t tell me to come, but we are in the waiting room. We’re so excited and want to be here for you two!'”
“I texted her back saying that we appreciated her coming up, but that they should go home and that we would see them tomorrow. My FIL called me shortly after and insulted me in every way imaginable, and my MIL sent me a long text saying how disrespectful it was of me to not allow them to visit their daughter.”
He wasted no time reminding his mother-in-law and father-in-law of how the day wasn’t supposed to be about them at all; it was meant to be about his wife, him, and their newborn.
He and his wife have not spoken to his insulted in-laws since then, and so he’s left wondering if he was wrong to have prevented his mother-in-law from seeing his wife right after giving birth.
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Not that I’ve ever given birth, but I know plenty of women who have and who had to undergo C-sections, and it’s major surgery. It is not something to be taken lightly; it’s an invasive procedure.
So I don’t find his wife selfish or rude or anything of the sort for wanting to wait a whole day to have visitors. It’s unfortunate that his in-laws couldn’t respect what his wife wanted, but he’s a hero for putting everyone in their places and sticking up for his wife on a stressful day in her life.
What do you think?
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