Imagine having your spouse completely destroy your name to your friends and family, move out to be with their boss, and then change their mind a year later. What would you do?
It was close to a year ago that this 33-year-old man’s 32-year-old wife told everyone about how he was a horrible husband who didn’t pay attention to her or their marriage. His wife also accused him of spending years on end taking advantage of her.
He felt totally blindsided and asked his wife to clarify, but she refused. Instead, she simply said their marriage was finished, and she was done with him.
She then went to their family members and friends and said that he had forgotten their recent plans and kept bailing on her, and that was it for her.
The thing is, he canceled the plans he had with his wife; he hadn’t forgotten them, and as for the other things his wife brought up? They were lies.
His wife’s best friend and sister screamed at him, and he got bombarded with texts from everyone else, referring to him as a terrible husband.
He questioned his wife about where this was all coming from, and she confessed that she was leaving him for her 44-year-old boss.
“I was completely over the thought that we could figure it out because she threw me under the bus to cover for her affair. When her friends and family found out, I got a couple of apologies, and they left me alone after that,” he explained.
“I ended up with custody of the kids because my wife was trying to make a fresh start. But she wanted the house and contested for several things at the start of the divorce process. We were finally starting to get somewhere, and then in March she told the judge she wanted to call off the divorce.”
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The judge tried to tell his wife that it wasn’t possible, but she blurted out that they hadn’t done everything possible to make their marriage work, such as never trying couples counseling.
The judge wanted to know if that was true, and he said yes, since his wife left him for her boss and went off to be with the guy. To him, that meant there was no chance of reconciliation.
Currently, they’re in limbo and trying therapy to make their marriage work, but he’s not a willing participant here.
“My wife has said she truly regrets what happened because she never meant to make me sound awful to others and to blame me for our marriage failing. She has made it clear she wants to fight for this, and she will keep delaying our divorce,” he continued.
“I don’t know how I’m going to handle this. My kids are young, but our oldest is aware that mom is gone, and she’ll be aware enough to notice tension and other issues, and I don’t want that for her or my other kids as they get older.”
“On the legal side, I have my attorney and don’t need advice. But all of this is making me hate my wife more, and I know that can’t be good for the kids. Though I’m not entirely sure she’ll be a mom to our kids after this anyway, because she really only talks about us.”
Well, it sounds like his wife’s boss dumped her, which made her come crawling back. His wife is a monster, and he absolutely should not take her back, because he and his kids deserve better than this.
What advice do you have for him?
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