Imagine giving your spouse more than one chance to save your marriage in light of their infidelity. How many chances would you keep giving them, though, if they couldn’t get it together?
This 38-year-old woman and her 40-year-old husband are high school sweethearts. They met back when she was only 16, and they have been married for 18 years, though together for 22.
Sadly, her husband has been having an affair with his female coworker for a number of years now, and she’s heard several stories about it.
She’s not positive if the affair has been going on for three years or four and a half, due to conflicting things she’s heard, but she learned about it back in 2023.
“I was absolutely heartbroken. I couldn’t actually eat for almost 3 months and lost 60 lbs in that time. After 2 months of a horrific limbo since discovery, I decided to move out and separate,” she explained.
“I couldn’t take it anymore, and I was trying to pick myself up. It was 3 days after that, he begged and cried and said he couldn’t lose me and wanted to work on our marriage. I agreed. I wanted nothing more than that in the first place, so I fell for it.”
But in April of 2024, she figured out that her husband was still seeing his affair partner. Once more, he pleaded with her not to leave him, and she stayed.
At the start of July, she obtained evidence that her husband was involved with his coworker, so she quit the false reconciliation they were in the middle of.
From there, her husband moved his affair partner into their house for an entire week while she was away. But then he kicked this girl out and came crawling back to her.
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Two days later, her husband went back to his affair partner, moved her in all over again, only to kick her out when she promptly filed for divorce. Talk about a toxic cycle.
“Since then, it’s been almost [every month] of back and forth, reconciliation attempts, and discovery. Just tonight, once again, I find out he’s still sleeping with her after claiming to be done with her for good. It’s always the same,” she added.
“2 years of this and I know it’s my own fault. He comes back so loving and sweet, and our lives are getting better, and then boom. Yet another devastation. I keep letting it happen. I’m better than I’ve ever been.”
“I’ve never been in better shape, more financially secure, more clear and insightful. I absolutely hate feeling conceited, but I am beautiful.”
Men tell her all the time that she’s stunning and hit on her. She just doesn’t get why she has no respect for herself and keeps trying to make it work with her husband, who evidently doesn’t care about her in the least.
Earlier today, her husband stated he was going to work. She then received a text message from his affair partner stating that they have shockingly been sleeping together lately, and this woman figured she knew about it.
It turns out that her husband lied about going to work and instead met up with his affair partner.
“I’m sitting here devastated and desperate for him to explain, and he knows. He told me hours ago he would tell me more, he said he would call me back, and he just leaves me here hurting like I do not matter,” she continued.
“He left her angry, then went back to her. I have to stop the cycle, and I keep getting close, but I always fall back. We have a home together, two older teens (17,19) in the home, and I think I’m just desperate for things to be ‘normal’ again. He’s destroying us and doesn’t care.”
“I just wanted to vent here because I know the one friend I barely have, my mom, and my mother-in-law, are all tired of hearing about it. They want me to walk away, even his own mom. It’s on me. I have no self-respect, and I want to change that more than anything.”
I can’t imagine she wants to keep spending her life like this, dealing with her lying, cheating, manipulative husband. I’m exhausted for her, so I can only imagine how she feels.
She really just needs to be done for good, because he has no remorse and is not picking her. It’s insane that even his own mom is saying it’s time for her to file for divorce, so it’s wise to finally listen to that.
What advice do you have for her?
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