If someone has a baby with a person they didn’t know was married, do you think it’s fair for them to make that person pay child support for the kid they helped create?
This 26-year-old woman gave birth to her daughter two months ago, and her baby daddy is a 34-year-old married man. To be fair, she had no clue this man was married back when she was seeing him.
They actually met through a hobby they both enjoy, they hit it off instantly, and the rest is history. She was not actually trying to have a baby with him, or really at all, but it was an accident.
Despite that, she does believe her daughter was ultimately a gift. When she decided to keep the baby, she texted her baby daddy to let him know what she was doing.
It was only then that she learned that he was a scumbag with a 32-year-old wife, and that they got married two years ago. Her baby daddy literally pleaded with her to get rid of her baby.
“I gave him the option that either he could tell his wife with a one-week deadline or I would, and he ended [up] telling her two days later,” she explained.
“She reached out to me to get the full story and all details. I apologized to her and reiterated that I didn’t know, but that I was pregnant and was planning on keeping it. The call ended shortly afterward.”
“The wife ended up taking back her husband, and has allowed him to be a father to our child. His name is on the records for our child, and he does visit weekly with his wife. While he is involved with our daughter, he does not financially support her.”
She’s filing for child support because, although she can easily afford to pay for her daughter all on her income alone, she wants her to have more, as it’s what she deserves.
She told her baby daddy and his wife that she is moving ahead with holding him financially accountable for the child he helped to create, and both of them are saying it’s not fair.
Her baby daddy and his wife both think that he didn’t abandon her daughter, and that means he is already going the extra mile here.
“On top of this, the husband’s sister reached out to tell me that I was a [witch] for even keeping the baby and that I was stealing money from her SIL and brother that could be going towards infertility treatments, and that I was hurting her SIL by rubbing this in her face,” she continued.
“While I empathize with her infertility struggles, I don’t think that excuses him for paying for a child that he is 50% responsible for. [Am I the jerk] for demanding child support from the man I cheated with, even if it hurts his wife?”
This man helped create her daughter and knew what he was doing, so yes, he owes her money to help her daughter out. I don’t care that his poor wife is the victim here; she should go after this man for everything she can get out of him.
Honestly, I don’t feel bad for his wife at all, though, because she somehow thinks not abandoning a kid is going above and beyond, so she’s delusional.
What do you think?
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