When this 28-year-old guy met his girlfriend, who is 30, about a year and a half ago, she was not in the best place.
His girlfriend had been suffering from depression and low self-esteem following a breakup. So, she reportedly did not care much about her appearance and claimed she was the “ugliest” she had ever been after gaining weight from antidepressants.
Regardless of that, he was still attracted to his girlfriend because, first of all, she was honest and kind. Second, he genuinely thought she was a cute girl.
He, on the other hand, was regarded as a very attractive guy when they first met. Back then, he worked out regularly and was in great shape.
However, as time went on, some major changes happened in his life. Primarily, his work became pretty hectic.
Then, he was forced to take over his family’s business and deal with a ton of drama after one of his relatives embezzled a lot of money.
So, he was constantly feeling tired and had no motivation to work out. At the same time, he started to binge on food.
Then, during his free time, he mostly hung out with his girlfriend.
“Because being around her is one of the few things that make me feel better, and I want to make sure we don’t drift apart due to me not having time for her,” he explained.
“She is appreciative of my efforts and always cooks my favorite foods for me. It is one of her love languages.”
Nonetheless, he is six feet tall and has gone from 190 pounds to 230 pounds since meeting his girlfriend. She, on the other hand, recovered from depression and has since become extremely cheerful and confident.
Plus, despite the fact that she hates working out and never really goes to the gym, she has still lost about 20 pounds since getting off her antidepressants.
So, people have started to constantly tell his girlfriend that she is glowing, both on social media and in person. Some of her ex-boyfriends have even reached out to her, too, and sometimes, random guys slide into her DM’s.
Now, he claimed that his girlfriend has never given him any reason to doubt her faithfulness, and she actually always tells him whenever she gets any messages from guys.
“She also always credits me for her glow-up, telling people that it’s because she’s in a great relationship that doesn’t stress her out,” he added.
On top of that, his girlfriend never makes any negative comments about his weight gain. All she does is remind him to check that his medical test results are all coming back to normal.
Finally, his girlfriend even claimed to like his “dad bod” better now. And he genuinely believes her since their physical relationship has only increased, and he genuinely feels how dedicated and attracted his girlfriend is to him.
Still, while he is happy that their relationship is doing great and is glad his girlfriend feels beautiful again, he admitted that it just sucks sometimes watching her get so much attention from other guys. At the same time, all he ever hears is people asking what happened to him or telling him that he “got fat.”
The worst incident was when he overheard one of his coworkers talking about how his girlfriend was a knockout. Then, his coworker claimed that he was “batting out of his league.”
Regardless, his tight schedule just will not allow him to work out two or three hours every day like he did in the past. Plus, he’s not able to give up his day job right now, and no one else in his family can take over the family business– which is the primary income source for some of my immediate family members.
That’s why he’s feeling pretty stuck at the moment.
“And I feel guilty for even feeling this way because I know I’m in a great relationship with an amazing girl,” he vented.
So, ever since his girlfriend had a “glow-up,” he’s been left wondering how to deal with his feelings about his own appearance.
Can you understand why it hurts to have people comment negatively about his looks while complimenting his girlfriend? Even so, does it matter more that his girlfriend loves how he looks? How can he become more confident?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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