This 36-year-old woman has a husband who is 42, and they got married 4 years ago, though they have been with one another for 6 years in total.
She does believe that she is “conventionally attractive,” and she really does make an effort in regard to her appearance.
She is educated, in great shape, and has a really wonderful personality. She wants you to know this because of something her husband recently revealed to her that left her feeling shocked.
As for her husband, he’s quite successful and the kind of man who can get along with anyone that he meets.
Right after they did get married, they moved from Canada to Europe for her husband’s job. She was entirely supportive of his career move and walked away from her career, the city she loved, and her friends in order to be with him.
In the country she lives in now, she is attempting to create her own business, and she doesn’t speak a lot of the local language.
But, back to her husband, he has issued her a few apologies on several recent occasions because they don’t have a romantic side to their relationship at all.
“He’s told me it’s not normal for him, and it was different with other women in the past,” she explained.
“He’s used to being with “really beautiful women.” He’s also said recently that he was never attracted to me in that way but didn’t want to break up with me when we first started dating…I told him he should have ended it then because now I live a lie and gave up everything to support him.”
“He also suggested multiple times we have an open relationship if I wanted to meet other men…he also believes that no one is really happy in their marriage and that romantic love is not something that lasts long-term.”
She really has no clue what to do in light of this information. She gave up everything for her husband, and she never imagined he would turn around and confess to her that he never even found her attractive.
There’s no way she’s able to pay to support herself in the country she’s residing in, and her family can’t exactly help because they are not wealthy.
“He’s very successful financially,” she said. “My family and friends love him and think he’s the perfect guy. From the outside, we’re the perfect couple.”
“But the reality is a disaster that I battle every day. My self-esteem and confidence have taken a nosedive. I could just ignore everything and live a comfortable life, but I would be living a lie.”
“He thinks we should stay together because “we get along in every other way.” I know no relationship is perfect, but this is so far beyond normal that I’m not sure how to deal with it. I’ve suggested therapy, but he says “that doesn’t work.” He wants to stay together and basically stay partners.”
Do you think she should agree to stay with him?
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