You think you know someone and all their quirks and habits, but you can still be completely blindsided by who they truly are. TikToker @betterafterbetrayal recently opened up about the devastating truth she discovered after spending two decades of her life with her husband.
She was with her husband for 20 years and was married to him for 17 years. In the last six months of their marriage, she found out that he had been cheating on her since their first year of marriage and possibly even before then.
He had started exhibiting a change in behavior at that time.
She never once suspected that her husband was cheating on her and would’ve bet her entire life on his faithfulness. During their marriage, she didn’t have the feeling that he was cheating, but looking back, she is able to point out some things that seemed off about him.
“So, for me, the biggest thing in my marriage was he had rage attacks,” she explained.
“He would get so angry at the drop of a pin, and it would be like, why are you losing it, like nothing, no big deal happened. Just one little thing that didn’t go your way and you’re losing it.”
He was a first responder and had issues from work, so she excused his anger as PTSD and stress. But in retrospect, she wonders if his rage episodes were actually the result of living a double life and constantly juggling lies.
The second thing she noticed about him was the type of friendships he had. The majority of his friends did not seem to have very good moral compasses, and it bothered her.
Another clue was that his attitude toward her shifted drastically when he was drinking. He would become really mean and resentful toward her, even in public, as if he couldn’t hide how he really felt about her in an inebriated state.
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Sadly, her story was much too common and resonated with many others who had lived through similar betrayals. They shared their own painful discoveries in the comments section.
“32 years for me. I thought he cheated the last four years. I found out after the divorce that he cheated the entire time. Never knew. Now, looking back, there were signs. But good people like us don’t see them because we would never behave that way,” commented one person.
“I know of a guy who had two families that only lived blocks away from each other. The kids figured it out when they became friends in grade school. They all had the same dad!” exclaimed another.
“I found out during the divorce that my ex was cheating on me from day one of the relationship. I didn’t know how he found the time. We were together all the time. He didn’t work late. We ate all our meals together every day. I finally figured out that as a volunteer firefighter, he was going to fake calls in the middle of the night while I slept,” added someone else.
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