How would you feel if you found out that your best friend was letting your ex get engaged to one of your former friends at their wedding?
On March 21st, this woman’s best friend is getting married, and she’s set to be her Maid of Honor. But she recently discovered from her best friend’s little sister that her ex-friend, J, is getting engaged at the wedding.
Now, she’s aware that J gave her best friend money for the wedding photography and flowers, which she thought was weird, and it finally makes sense why J was being generous.
She no longer talks to J because she started dating her ex-boyfriend, and it was pretty messy how that all came about. She was with her ex for three years, and she can honestly say those were the best years of her whole life.
She loved her ex with all of her heart, and she thought he felt the same way about her. One day, her ex ghosted her with no explanation.
Several months went by, and she pieced together what happened: he thought she was cheating on him, but that was a lie. She was nothing but faithful to her ex.
“I never got the chance to ask him or explain to him either. My best friends believed me and most of my friends. Then I found out that he started dating J a few months later,” she explained.
“After some digging, I found out who my supposed affair partner was, and he is one of J’s closest friends since childhood. It didn’t take a lot of genius to understand what happened there and that she probably was involved in spreading that rumor.”
It certainly does seem that J spun a cheating story in order to steal her man. So now that J and her ex are getting engaged at her best friend’s wedding, she’s furious and sad.
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Her best friend is aware of the whole backstory with her ex and somehow is alright with it all. She questioned her best friend about why she was permitting J and her ex to get engaged at the wedding, and she mentioned she thought she was over it since the breakup was a year ago.
Her best friend added that she hadn’t said a word about it, so that was further proof it was acceptable. She didn’t speak up to her best friend because she’s still heartbroken over her ex.
“I am being basically punished by my best friend for not wanting to ruin [J’s] engagement and wedding planning by breaking down completely in her arms every single time I remembered him, just like the countless times I did for her growing up and dating boys,” she added.
“I feel very heartbroken, and I think it is time for me to move on from this friend group for good.”
I think she should back out of the wedding and not even attend as a guest, so she can spare herself from having to watch her ex and J get engaged.
That would be too hurtful for her to have to see in real life. I also believe it’s a good idea for her to cut contact with her best friend, because it’s cruel of her to allow this engagement to happen.
If her best friend really cared about her, she wouldn’t use the excuse that the breakup happened a year ago; she would not let the engagement take place at all.
What advice do you have for her? Do you think it sounds like she needs new friends?
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