Imagine being 82 days away from saying, “I do,” only to find out that the person you’re about to walk down the aisle with is cheating on you with their ex.
Would you still go ahead with the wedding, since you already paid for it and it’s pricey to back out of? Or would you call off your nuptials and not worry about the money or what people will think?
It was just yesterday that this girl got a text message from her fiancé’s ex, and the contents were ugly. Her fiancé’s ex sent her video and photo proof that her fiancé has been cheating on her!
She instantly took the evidence to her fiancé, whom she’s been with for three and a half years, and he owned up to having an affair with his ex, of all people.
She knew her fiancé was being honest because his version of events matched up with what his ex recounted to her about their inappropriate connection.
“The relationship was purely via messages and pictures, never anything in person or even by voice (confirmed by AP as well). He put an end to it about six weeks ago (this lasted about a year and a half on and off) and told me that that’s why she reached out to me (I’m sure there’s some truth to this),” she explained.
“We have been in counseling (originally for conflict resolution help) since the beginning of January, and he said he felt that it had been helping so much, our relationship became much better quickly with the help of counseling (all true) and he didn’t feel he needed the escape/distraction anymore and wanted to be ‘two feet in’ with us.”
“He has expressed extreme guilt and remorse, but it’s hard for me to believe right now. He said he knew I would find out eventually, but he thought he would be the one to get to tell me once he mustered up the courage (again… hard to believe).”
She does buy that her fiancé wants to be a better man than this and will change for the better. He has been putting in the work in therapy, and he’s proven to her that his love for her is real, along with his desire to make her his wife.
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Throughout the last couple of weeks, their relationship has been amazing, and they had a whole conversation about it in the morning when she found out about the affair.
So, the affair came out of left field. Frankly, if you had to bet money on who would end up cheating among the two of them, she knows people would have picked her, because her fiancé is that great of a guy.
“He is right that our relationship hasn’t been perfect; it’s actually been extremely difficult at times, but I would’ve never in a million years thought to do something like this, or thought he would either,” she added.
Their therapist is not in town right now, and they can’t see him until next week to discuss the affair. Also, today she’s supposed to be flying home with her fiancé to celebrate her bridal shower.
She does not feel comfortable confiding in her family members or friends about the affair, because she knows they will push her to leave her fiancé and call off the wedding.
That’s not what she plans on doing at the moment, and she’s left feeling woefully lonely while she attempts to navigate her next steps.
“I’m so in love with him. The thought of leaving him makes me feel physically ill. We are supposed to have an international wedding in less than 3 months that many people have spent thousands of dollars on to attend,” she continued.
“How do I handle this? What can I expect to happen if I stay? Sorry if this is all over the place or out of order.”
I’m so sad for her because getting married and the events leading up to that are meant to be the most special moments of your life, and the affair is overshadowing all of that.
I know it’s going to be challenging for her to slap a smile on her face and pretend that everything is perfect at her bridal shower.
This is her life, and she shouldn’t let the money she and her guests are going to lose out on dictate whether or not she should stay with this man.
She also shouldn’t take into consideration how many people will be let down or disappointed by her calling off the wedding, because the only thing that matters here is what she feels comfortable living with.
Personally, I would not be ready to build a marriage on a bed of betrayal and lies.
What do you think she should do? Get married or call off the wedding?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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