If your ex gave you an STI and started dating your sister, then announced their marriage, is that a wedding you would feel the need to attend?
This 31-year-old woman found out that her 32-year-old boyfriend was cheating on her six years ago. Do you know how she found out?
She tested positive for an STI, and that is what made her realize he was not being faithful. But surprisingly, this was hardly the only sour spot in their relationship, as her boyfriend was super verbally abusive to her towards the end.
However, the STI was the straw that broke the camel’s back, and that’s what made her decide to be done with this man once and for all.
“What he did shattered me, and I took a couple of years to recover. Meeting my husband (31M) helped a lot. Just before I started dating my husband (we had already met, though), my sister (28F) and [my] ex started dating,” she explained.
“I was hurt that she would date someone who treated me like that, and I told her when she told me I needed to support her. We stopped talking after that because I refused to be around him, even if she loved him as she claimed.”
“She told me I was being unfair because it was so clear I was in love with someone else (my husband). I reminded her of the STI, and then the verbal abuse, and she brushed it off.”
When she and her husband tied the knot, she did not invite her sister to attend her wedding, and she and her husband were relieved not to have to deal with that drama.
Her 62-year-old dad was not thrilled with her excluding her sister, but he agreed to let it go because it was still one fresh wound for her.
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Well, her sister is about to marry her ex, and now her dad is all on her case about how she’s refusing to attend that wedding. Her dad said he’s disappointed and mad that she’s not ready to be supportive and start over with her sibling.
“My sister actually invited me, but we RSVP’d no. Since my dad found out, he has been talking about it nonstop. I don’t want this to come between us, but I refuse to go to the wedding or reconcile with her,” she continued.
“So do I just accept it, hurting my relationship with dad? Any advice to make this not ruin the relationship? Our mom died when we were teenagers, and I would hate to lose my dad.”
She’s left wondering if her sister should be forgiven.
Some things are unforgivable, and your sister choosing to spend her life with your abusive, dirty ex is one of those things. She should tell her dad that she’s disappointed in him condoning this marriage.
She absolutely should not attend just to make her dad happy. And if that impacts her relationship with her dad, oh well, her peace is more important.
What do you think?
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