Do you think banning your spouse from the delivery room and not letting them be present for the birth of your child is a perfect way to punish them for making you cry?
This 27-year-old woman is 31 weeks pregnant with her second child, and her oldest three. She is on modified bed rest right now, as her doctors are worried about her prematurely going into labor.
Considering her physical limitations at the moment, she has asked her 29-year-old husband to pitch in more around the house. She stated she’s no longer able to make lists for him, only to have him never follow through on completing things that have to get done at home.
“This turned into a two-hour screaming fight. He told me I have not cooked or cleaned in a year, even though the months before this pregnancy included four miscarriages, and I am now on bedrest,” she explained.
“He said I am too critical of him. He also has mentioned that my job has taken me away from being an involved mother (I work 8 to 5 like everyone else). He was fired from his job 2 weeks ago due to executive function issues on his end, and I’m the sole income earner.”
“This is also not isolated. In another major fight this week, he called me a [name] and told me I make his days miserable. Tried saying it wasn’t that bad because [my] calling into question his competence is worse.”
Yesterday evening, before they went to bed, he told her to shut up and get out of the house. These last two fights left her uncontrollably crying for hours on end.
Following their latest blowout fight, she decided to ban her husband from being in the delivery room when she gives birth to their son.
She’s not looking to prevent her husband from meeting their son or trying to stop him from being involved as a dad, but being in labor leaves you very exposed, and her husband no longer makes her feel safe emotionally.
She just doesn’t want her husband in the delivery room with her when he’s been putting her down, yelling at her, and making her feel like she’s no longer stable, knowing full well that she could prematurely deliver their baby.
She needs less stress in her life right now, not more. She wants the person in the delivery room to be someone who makes her feel supported and safe, and her husband is not living up to that lately.
“I should mention it’s only the household burden he behaves incompetently with. He’s a super involved and loving father to our daughter, like stay-at-home dad energy, and our fights never happen when she is awake, thankfully,” she clarified.
“At least a small silver lining to this [mess] of a marriage as of late.”
She’s left wondering if she’s a jerk for banning her husband from the delivery room.
Her husband is actually the worst for being so cruel to her when she is in a vulnerable position. Not only does he not care about her safety and well-being, but he also doesn’t care about their unborn baby’s either.
She really should ask for a separation and go stay with a family member for the remainder of her pregnancy so she doesn’t end up delivering her baby early.
If her husband can’t shape up, she needs to get a divorce, because his behavior is alarming and seems to only be escalating.
What do you think?
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