If you had little kids, and the person you were engaged to said they would babysit, only to leave your kids home without adult supervision, how would you feel?
This man has been with his fiancée for a year, and they’re in the same social circle. They are both single parents; she has a 19-year-old son, while he has two boys who are 8 and 10.
His fiancée doesn’t live in his house, but she’s been staying over more frequently in order to help his sons get used to having a stepmom present.
Last weekend, on Saturday, he got unexpectedly called into work, and his fiancée volunteered to watch his kids for him. He did caution her that the boys are full of energy, but she was unbothered by that.
He went off to work, and his fiancée told him that the kids were alright, but he was too busy to check back in with her after that. He thought that if she had an issue, she would reach out. No news is good news, right?
“When I got home from work, fiancée and her son were gone. My boys were both home. The 10-year-old was in tears, which is not common for him. He said [my] fiancée took her son out,” he explained.
“My boys’ side of the story is this: they wanted the 19-year-old to let them play with his Nintendo Switch Lite. He didn’t want to lend it out because he thought they were too young and hyper to be given a Switch.”
“I have no problem with this because it’s his Switch. They bugged him a few more times, but let it go. They asked him to play catch, but there was a heat advisory out, and he doesn’t like heat. They started asking him about his Switch again.”
His fiancée then took the phone his boys share away from them and put it somewhere they couldn’t get to. His fiancée informed his kids that if they couldn’t respect her son and leave his things alone, they were too immature to deal with their own things.
Not long after, his fiancée left the boys home alone, unsupervised, so that she could take her own son out for shopping and to grab lunch.
After he arrived, his oldest was upset that the house was super hot, and he had attempted to adjust the thermostat on his own but couldn’t manage to do that.
Additionally, the smoke alarm in his house was running on a low battery and making noises, which made his youngest jump and gave both kids headaches. His boys were too little to reach the smoke detector, even when climbing on a chair.
“My fiancée comes home and says the boys were driving her nuts, so she left. Her excuse was that the 10-year-old could watch his brother,” he continued.
“I told her she was wrong, that a 10-year-old is in no way mature enough to babysit, especially without access to a phone. She countered by saying in 3 years, he will be a teen, and 13 years old is old enough to babysit.”
“I said to her, ‘So should 13-year-olds drive because in 3 years they will be 16? Should 18-year-olds get drunk because in 3 years they will be 21?’ I broke off [the] engagement. Our friends are saying I’m [a jerk] and overreacting.”
He’s beginning to think his friends are correct, but he’s furious with his fiancée for leaving his two young children home alone without even calling him about it first.
Everyone is on his fiancée’s side and insisting she was so stressed out, she didn’t call him, but she did need a break from babysitting.
He’s left wondering if it was uncalled for for him to dump his fiancée for having one bad day.
It’s insane to me that an adult, let alone a woman who has raised a kid, would leave an 8 and 10-year-old home alone, and with no phone to call for help.
Even if his kids were making her crazy, it’s so dangerous to ditch them like that. His fiancée is irresponsible with what should be the most precious things to him: his kids. I don’t see how he could ever trust her with his children after what she did.
And if you can’t trust the person you want to marry with your children, you can’t stay with them. This woman is appalling.
What do you think?
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