If your mom told you that she was going to kick you out of your bedroom as soon as you went to college so she could have a personal gym, how would you feel?
This girl is going to be a college freshman this fall, and she is getting ready to move out of her family’s home soon. A few days ago, her mom walked into her room to help her pack up a couple of boxes.
Next, her mom informed her that she’s making her room into a home gym, so she thought that meant her mom would just buy a treadmill, since her room is huge and there’s plenty of space to put that in there.
“She tells me no, she’s actually selling all my furniture and completely redoing my room. So obviously I’m like, um, where am I supposed to stay when I come home for breaks?” she wondered.
“And she says, oh, don’t worry, you can sleep on the couch in the office! My school’s breaks are very long, and I would not enjoy sleeping on the sofa in my dad’s office for a month.”
“So I told her if that’s the case, I would use my breaks to visit friends at other schools or travel or just stay on campus, and she got so mad. I felt a little bad, and I was like, okay, maybe I’d stay for a few days for like big holidays, but that’s it, but she says I’m being extreme and taking my anger towards her out on my family.”
She believes it is reasonable not to want to come home on college breaks when she will no longer have her own bedroom and dedicated space.
Her mom is going to wait until she’s gone to college to totally revamp her room, but that doesn’t make her feel any better about being displaced.
She knows her mom loves working out, and is confined to the living room at the moment, so she gets why she wants to commandeer her bedroom; however, it’s still hurtful to her.
My mom never took over my room when I went to college, but oh boy, if she did, I would have been unbelievably sad, so I understand where she’s coming from.
It’s almost like her mom is making her feel like an afterthought, or like she’s not important, by wiping out her personal space. If you’re a parent and you don’t want your kid coming home, the easiest thing to do is take away your kid’s bedroom.
So that’s why I don’t get why her mom is acting like she’s being ridiculous for no longer wanting to come home after losing out on having her own space. She should just stay with friends and not come back after this.
What advice do you have for her?
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