Chip Chick
“You moved in with her and expect her to change her minor memorial (“tucked away in a corner on a little shelf” doesn’t exactly scream big shrine).”
“If you can’t handle her still grieving, you can’t handle living there. You aren’t in competition with a dead guy, and the space was arranged prior to your moving in.”
“It means a lot to her. What’s she supposed to do? Throw it away? Put it in storage? Give it to his family, saying, “Sorry, I don’t want it anymore?” People have ashes. It doesn’t mean they love the people currently in their lives any less. Perhaps you need counseling.”
“You’re irrationally insecure about a dead man – what’s he going to do, steal your girl from beyond the grave?”
He then added his reasoning behind being upset about her former boyfriend’s ashes.
“I’ve just heard (mostly from her friends and family) about what an amazing guy he was,” he said. “And I definitely believe it. I’ve seen a few pictures of them together and they looked so happy together.”
“I’m insecure because I’m worried that I’ll never be good enough to fill his shoes. I know that she still loves him, I just don’t know if she loves me as much as she loved him, and it sucks.”
“Her keeping it out so she can see it every day just reminds me that I’m not him, I’ll never be him, and that even if she has me, I’m not enough to fill the hole he left behind (which yes, I know is impossible because he died and nobody could actually replace a dead person).”
